My hair and makeup held up really well. Post sleeping (albeit only about 3 hours) and some wedding night hanky panky, I got up touched up the makeup a little and added a couple of bobby pins before doing our TTD shots at 5:45AM the next morning. I washed my face off after breakfast but didn't wash out my hair until 9:00PM the day after the wedding and the "do" was still in pretty good shape. My hair was mostly up with a bit down and curly to the side. I think if you have a down-do or a partial up/down do, you need to be a bit more concerned about whether it will last, especially if it's curled because of the humidity and dancing. If I wasn't so darn tired and hung over, I would have done my makeup a bit better (foundation, blush, and lips)
I don't have many good hair shots or any close-ups but I'm posting some resort photog pics of me so you have an idea of what the hair looked like on the wedding day.
Pre-ceremony "Let's get this show on the road!":
Dad giving me away:
Here's a few sneak peak photos that my photographer sent me of the TTD the morning after the wedding (see hair!):
(Resort Photog) Chapel Ceremony:
Resort Photog: First Kiss!
I'm happy to give you any other info you might need. For our symbolic ceremony, the wedding coordinator forwarded the ceremony script they usually use. You can go with that or create your own. We used the bones of the usual one and added/changed some stuff on it, then emailed the pastor our script. The ceremony was about 20 minutes and Pastor Kiko was the minister. He did a good job but because English isn't his first language, his breaks in the vows when he told us to repeat after him were at odd spots at times. Also, despite having the microphone it was sometimes hard to hear him at the back (not his fault) because it was not loud enough and the mic sometimes cut out. You definitely need a mic though regardless of where the ceremony is and when you say your vows, say them loudly and clearly if you remember in all your nervousness.
I'm a bit type A myself so I know what you're feeling. Either way, everything will be great. You can do as much pre-planning as you want, some things are just out of you're control and you're wedding will never be 100% perfect...but almost! Since your ceremony is at 5pm, it'll be really close to sun-down so you definitely will need time before for pictures.You should be safe if you book your hair and makeup for 11am so even if it takes 3 hours, you still have 3 hours before the ceremony....unless of course you don't want that much time before. It also depends on whether you're seeing your groom before or not. I didn't so all our "together" shots are during and after the ceremony.