Grrr...the beginning of MIL drama
Posted 15 July 2008 - 11:26 PM
Posted 15 July 2008 - 11:36 PM
Ok, so I don't like to lie...but maybe tell FMIL that you are just going to get the legal papers here but htey won't be "binding" until what's done in mexico is done...just an idea, don't even know if it'd work
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Posted 15 July 2008 - 11:38 PM
Posted 16 July 2008 - 08:46 AM
Now they are wanting to take us to dinner that night to celebrate. My response to that was "there's nothing to celebrate... unless you also celebrate things like renewing your driver's license."
Just make it seem so totally insignificant that any bit of carrying on makes them look dumb. It will work... eventually. But make sure FI is either conveying or fully backing up that message.
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Posted 16 July 2008 - 08:57 AM
Posted 16 July 2008 - 03:01 PM
So we planned on doing the small legal thing here and grabbing whoever to come be our witnesses. Since his parents are in Canada and we are in Minnesota and since we were planning on doing it a week or two before the Jamaica trip... we assumed his parents wouldn't even want to come. Well once they caught wind of our plans... they announced they didn't care when it was... but they would be flying down for it. I thought (well still think) it is pretty stupid for them to pay to fly down here for a quick 10 minute thing... when we will see them so soon for Jamaica. But they weren't really budging.
So I ended up having a talk with FMIL and in doing so realized how important it was to them. Even though Jamaica will be our wedding day to us, it will be in the courthouse that legally we become married. Sean is her baby and she couldn't imagine missing such an important occasion. In the end I didn't feel it was worth adding extra stress and fuss over. So ultimately, I gave in.... and we will be legally married in the presence of both sets of parents and then going out to dinner to celebrate.
To be honest though, I am now actually excited about the plan and sharing the day with our parents. Plus it will give our families another chance to get together (which doesn't happen that often since we live in separate countries).
Posted 16 July 2008 - 03:24 PM
Posted 16 July 2008 - 04:13 PM
For the signing of the paperwork - would the parents be there anyway? For my sister's wedding, it was their two witnesses who went to sign the paperwork.
Hang in there. This must be such a stressful situation on top of all the other stuff you are planning.
Posted 16 July 2008 - 05:46 PM
BUT i'd tell FI to grab a hold of himself and stand up to his mother, its not your job to do that she is bugger all to do with you and HE needs to do it.
If he wont then tell her straight, she isn't coming and if she doesn't like it tough shite deal with it. You run your own life she doesn't run it for you.
Now I'm evil so I'd tell her the wrong date and place if she really pushed me lmfao
Seriously you need to take a stand now or you are in for a lot of crap for the rest of HER life, give her an inch and she'll take a mile - trust me I have one the same lol She doesn't contact me anymore as the conversation usually ends with piss off lol
Posted 16 July 2008 - 08:00 PM
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