| Originally Posted by Maura |
i dont know of any spas around me that offer guided imagery massage or raindrop therapy massage (at least none that have them on their spa menus) but i will ask the spa tomorrow if they offer that. i really hope the reflexology works. the massage therapist where i go is always telling me that i never seem relaxed and my muscles are still tight even after an hour long massage.
thank you for offering to help, but theres really nothing anyone can help me with right now. i have to wait to do the programs, seating chart & placecards after i've sorted it all out with jose's mom this weekend. i wish i could take a sick day but sick days count as vacation days at my job, and my boss is giving me friday off as a comp day for working 8 weekends in april & may. i cannot take a single extra vacation day before the wedding because i need to save my days for christmas because jose's mom wants to take us on a cruise, which i dont even know if i will be able to do because of my work schedule. she's already kind of miffed (and so is jose) that i cant let her know whether i can do it or not until october because of my production schedule.
i almost yelled at a makeup counter girl yesterday because she ordered something for me 3 weeks ago and then never charged my card, so i never got it. so i had to go to a different dept store where they have a smashbox counter and the same girl was there who originally ordered my thing, and i was like yeah you never charged my card, i never got what i ordered, so i hope you have one in stock. thankfully they did. but i was steaming about it.
i was trying to relax this morning at work by watching some random wedding video posted on the forum, and i got totally nauseous because i got so nervous for my own wedding. not nervous like, am i doing the right thing. i know its the right thing and i love jose. i am just extremely anxious about pleasing everyone, including myself & jose, and being the center of attention to a guest list 40% bigger than i originally expected and was comfortable with. KWIM? i have big social anxiety to begin with, so i think its catching up with me bigtime right now.
I know you know this but sometimes it helps to hear it...you do NOT have to please everyone - you are going to have an amazing wedding, 90% of it is already done and most people will not miss the little bullshit stuff that we spend hours thinking about and obsessing on - i know it is hard but please try to take care of yourself by letting some of it go.
Jose's parents sound very supportive - maybe you can offset some of this stuff onto her this weekend - she can have placecards and programs done in Mexico or maybe order through Anny - you are getting married to a man you love - it is time to start celebrating and stop stressing!
If you need help or just to talk you know where to find me