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#11 jmill130

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    Posted 08 July 2008 - 11:05 AM

    I have been in weddings were I paid and where the bride has paid... it depends on many factors. Just be honest and upfront:) Best of luck!

    #12 DanielleNDerek

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      Posted 08 July 2008 - 03:35 PM

      In the US usually the bm buy their own dresses, at least my area they do. But i'm buying my bm dresses since we are having a DW and it costs so much. Plus i only have two bm so it's not too much for me. I'm giving them a gift also. But again that's just because i have 2, if i had more i might not of bought the dresses.
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      #13 Kim726

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        Posted 08 July 2008 - 03:37 PM

        I am a MOH and I paid for my trip and also am paying for my dress. At least I am able to pick out what I want-color and all!
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        #14 beachbride08

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          Posted 08 July 2008 - 03:44 PM

          I had budgeted $150 for each BM to pay for their BM dresses, but I only have 2 BMs and a flower girl. I didn't tell them I was paying for the dresses, and ended up finding dresses that were way less than what I budgeted for them. I bought the dresses for the girls, and am putting the extra money towards more gifts for them. I have been a BM in many weddings, and have always had to pay for the dress myself. However, since my girls were already spending money on the trip itself I figured it was the least I could do to buy their dress. I also bought them flip flops and am having jewelry made to wear with the dress. Depending on how much the jewelry ends up costing I may get them a gift certificate to the spa at the resort that they can use for whatever they want.

          #15 DanielleNDerek

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            Posted 08 July 2008 - 03:50 PM

            Michelle a spa certificate would really be nice. great idea!
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            #16 JaimeLynne

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              Posted 08 July 2008 - 04:57 PM

              Like other girls have said, here in the US it's customary to pay for your own dress if you are a BM. However, as we all know - with DWs tradition goes out the window.

              I was going to pay for our BMs dresses but then decided that might not be the best idea - what if some of them cancel? Instead we are thinking of paying for an extra night in the hotel for each of them (there are 4 + 2 GM). We can announce that after we see who will really end up booking, and won't waste any money. It may seem cheap upfront but I'm hoping in the end they'll see that we were thinking of them afterall.

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              #17 ErinB


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                Posted 08 July 2008 - 05:16 PM

                We paid for the dresses and the GM shirts, only because they were paying to come to the wedding and I knew everyone's financial situation.

                The dresses were about $110 each. I bought beaded flip flops for $6 on clearance and jewelry for $40 and included both in their gift bags.

                The GM shirts worked out to be about $15 each because I got them on a super sale, had a coupon, and used my store credit card that I turned right around and paid. They were originally $65 each!

                I think it is a nice gesture if you can afford to do it. Because we had 3 on each side it was feasible for us.

                If you do ask them to pay for their own, then I wouldn't choose a $300 designer dress.

                If you let them choose their own, I would write a nice card explaining the prefered style - strapless, knee-length, etc. You should also include a fabric swatch (es) as there are so many different shades of aqua.

                #18 Hartyt509

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                  Posted 08 July 2008 - 05:43 PM

                  See what your budget is like. If your trip is costing anything like ours it might be nice to give them something towards the dresses.

                  I'm not having a wedding party for that reason

                  #19 lscilley

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                    Posted 08 July 2008 - 06:42 PM

                    My girls are paying for their own dresses but I am giving them each so much money towards their trip. I am hoping to find dresses for them under $100.00

                    #20 Yari

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                      Posted 08 July 2008 - 09:40 PM

                      The bridal party paid for their own dresses, shoes, etc.

                      I think that we might pay for their excursion.

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