Posted 19 July 2008 - 01:49 AM
We were both 20 when my fiance proposed. We'll be 23 when we get married. I agree with those that say maturity is different for different people. I have been told as long as I can remember that I am so mature for my age (ironic, considering before people "know" me they guess I'm much younger). In fact, some of my best friends are well into their 40s and 50s. Some may have not known, at the age we are, what they were going to want or like in 10 years but I am confident to say that I do, and I know my fiance feels the same. I went to college for things related to family, children, and relationships. Even the researchers are not 100% certain that any age makes a difference. For some it works, for some it doesn't. A couple needs to be able to compromise, work out problems, be willing to share their feelings, etc. If they can do these things, research is not going to show that being older will make your marriage work. A perfect example of this is, almost half of all marriages end in divorce, yet the average age of first marriage in the US is at about 27.