dh and new job vent - help!
Posted 01 July 2008 - 08:18 AM
FI is in the army so when he is home, which can be once a month for 2 nights I feel myself having to try and not have a go at him.
He gets home about 11.30 on a Friday night and is gone by 12 on a sunday and he is wrecked and a total misery sometimes, but like I said you do get used to it.
It doesn't help when I'm off work tho because I think "stop being lazy and do what I ask you for once" lol everyone gets it when their partners work either long hours or away all the time. You are so not alone.
Posted 01 July 2008 - 09:32 AM
I'm getting used to it now. And we make the most of our weekends.
I've actually been able to workout more and eat healthier because of it. And when he's upstairs sleeping i've been working on wedding projects. I'm hoping his work hires him some help so he can go back on a normal schedule.
It must be hard having your summer off and him having to work such long hrs. that would definately drive me crazy too.
Posted 01 July 2008 - 09:53 AM
Posted 01 July 2008 - 09:57 AM
FI and I are both on a 5:45 AM train into NYC, and one of us is invariably leaving the office later than the other. We do commute together in the mornings, though, so we have that time. Of course, one of us usually nods off.
But make the best of it. Learn not to ask him to get things done in the evenings until he's used to his new schedule. Instead, take that time to be together. Watch some TV, play checkers, whatever. Save the to do list until the weekends. I know you're home now and wanting to get things done, but for now just suck it up. Plenty of time on the weekends to get that stuff done. Just keep lists of what you need and march thru them until they are done.
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Posted 01 July 2008 - 10:23 AM
i agree with jessica, give it some more time (well, like you have a choice! but anyways....) and try to complain to us instead of him. its s good thing he likes the job, so try to focus on that and not on the stress part of it. once he gets settled into the idea and transition of a new job he will remember that his lovely wife is patiently waiting for him to pay attention to her!
Posted 01 July 2008 - 10:27 AM
that is really tough! When FI and i first started dating he was working full time and finishing his master's degree - can you say "no free time?" lol.
anyway, i think what i hear you saying is that you want to see HIM making an effort or caring about it? is that right?
Posted 01 July 2008 - 10:32 AM
Posted 01 July 2008 - 10:40 AM
Posted 01 July 2008 - 10:44 AM
I'm on the other side of this. I work shifts and they fluctuate between days, evenings and nights. I only work 15-16 shifts a month, but my DH works a 9-5 job, so it sucks when I work 3-11p or 5p-3a. He eats alone a lot, and does a lot around the house when I'm not around. We've definitely had fights because he feels like I'm never here and when I am, I sometimes really want to just relax... but he's had a million projects planned for when I am finally home.
Its hard, but you do adjust. Try to be patient with him and realize that he's working a really long day. I know that is easier said than done, but hang in there and know that you can ALWAYS vent to us!
Posted 01 July 2008 - 10:58 AM
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