Last name confusion!
Posted 14 February 2007 - 11:17 AM
Posted 14 February 2007 - 11:33 AM
I chose to move my maiden name to my middle name, so it's still there. Honestly, I am still slowly moving over. I would say I'm about halfway there.
Posted 14 February 2007 - 11:37 AM
We also have a daughter (20 months old) who has his last name and often when filing things out or signing anything I have to ask "when you say last name do you mean hers or mine?" The usually I get a new form to accomadate the issue. I don't know. I am leaning towards his name as it will be easier with my daughter.
My sister kept her last name and a year after she was married, her husband changed his last name to hers for their anniversary. He had no attachment to it, as he didn't know his father. Now my niece and nephew have my last name!
Posted 14 February 2007 - 12:05 PM
| Originally Posted by JANET1111 |
I'm sure you will still get called Mrs. HusbandsName in public but you can legally keep your own name - plenty of women do it.
just a little off topic.. I get so many things addressed to Mr. Fotini, it drives me nuts!
Posted 14 February 2007 - 12:42 PM
Anyway, I say that if you're thinking about or planning to have kids, just make sure you decide ahead of time what name you'd like them to have and then see whether or not you'd like to share that same name with them. I personally don't reccomend the whole hyphenation thing...it was a PITA for me growing up. But like Ann said - it's fine to have different names if that's how you're most happy.
I also thought the idea of asking your FI if he'd possibly switch to your name was good one. If he's not terribly attatched to his then maybe he wouldn't mind and you guys would have one big, happy "maiden name" family!
All that being said...if you or he make any changes, you will do more ridiculous paperwork and spend way too much time standing in lines (DMV, Social Security etc) than you ever imagined. After being married a few months, I finally took a day off work in the middle of the week just to get all that done! I'm coming up on my first anniversary and I still need to get my name changed on a couple key items...it's such a production!
Posted 14 February 2007 - 12:49 PM
you have to do whatever youre comfortable with. sounds like you dont want to change it and your husband doesnt care. i always wondered about people who hyphenate. so if my name was leigh smith-miller. then i had a daughter and her name was jane smith-miller - and she got married and wanted to hyphenate her name she could end up with one long last name - haha!
Posted 14 February 2007 - 01:08 PM
I have a question, I am looking at the marriage license and it does not ask you if you are keeping your nameâ€¦so how do I get to keep my last nameâ€¦
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