| Originally Posted by jilly76 |
Leigh I have a similar situation.
A few weeks ago FI got into an argument with his father, because for some reason his family always has to butt into our lives, when they should really just be concerned about their own. So anyway, his sister called and they argued, his brother called and they argued, the only one that didn't get involved was his mother.
So now he went from talking to his sister several times a week to not at all and he calls his brother, but I think his brother is taking his dads side, so even though he said he is going, he hasn't booked either and I think its for this reason.
I feel really bad for FI because my family is all booked and none of his family is. I want to mention it to him, but I just don't want to make him feel worse.
I think everyone is right though, we both have a lot of time. Because of the special I thought a lot more people would have booked too, but some people are booking on their own.
So we just have to remember that our wedding day is about us, and not about any of our inconsiderate friends or family.
I just don't understand why family can't be happy for us instead of arguing and trying to make points about all of this....FINE, if they don't want to come, or don't want to be involved, then thats their loss! My FI have talked about this several times....we are just different i guess! If one of his sisters got married, we would just make it work and NO one would have to ask us twice to be a part of it! (even if we didn't want to) we would be there for them! My mom always taught me to treat others the way that you would want to be treated! I think that's why it hurts my feelings at this point...Because they have already point blank said they would NOT be there...and didn't really give a reason. We would probably even help out financially if they even acted like it something about $$$...But i'll tell you one thing, I'm not begging anyone to be there....this is our special day....we don't have any time for negative people in our lives!