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Frustrated...Need to vent!!!

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#11 Lizzy

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    Posted 12 February 2007 - 07:32 PM

    Andrea, I am sorry about what is happening. Come to the Twin Cities and I will go gown shopping with you! If only you could. Hang in there, my daughter had to let people know how hurt she was when no one seemed excited about her plans for a DW. It worked and now there is excitement where there should be.
    Be happy you are in love with the man you choose to spend the rest of your life with. Your happiness will rub off on others.
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    #12 MrsWtobe

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      Posted 12 February 2007 - 07:41 PM

      My thoughts are with you...and I can (somewhat) relate to what you are saying. My FI's parents are giving us a ridiculously bad time right now...they don't want to pay the money (even though they have tons of it)...everything we chose to do is wrong or too expensive...we are actually not even speaking to them at this point--who knows if they'll even come? My FI has also had a lot of problems with his friends coming as well....it's frustrating but just try and remember the most important part of this whole idea in the first place---you'll be marrying your best friend!

      #13 Jessalyn

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        Posted 12 February 2007 - 07:45 PM


        You're definitely not alone. A lot of the people who were "for sure" coming to my wedding now aren't. A few just changed their minds, a few are pregnant and due 2 weeks after my wedding or 3 weeks before (one would have been my MOH).

        One of my best friends/BM was excited and eager when she accepted the role, but then she kinda stopped returning my calls and has become really distant. I almost want to uninvite her.

        But anyway, hang in there. This is your wedding to celebrate the love you two have and it will be a great day regardless of who is or isn't there.

        I hope your tests went well.
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        #14 atjorgensen

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          Posted 12 February 2007 - 09:47 PM

          Oh wow you guys are so awesome. I just got back on and read all of your posts and feel a lot better. To tell you the truth, my parents are sick so they can't come...I understand that. My sisters and I aren't really that close so I guess I shouldn't be too upset, plus I don't think they could afford it if they wanted to go. As for my friends, I am not going to let it get to me anymore. You are all right, a lot will change within a year and a half so I shouldn't stress. If they go, they go..if not oh well.
          I know for sure we will be there and that's all that matters. His parents are definately going and his sister and bro in law will be there as well. They are starting to be really supportive.
          I talked to his mom and she told me she would love to go dress shopping with me and also to pick out his ring. That made me feel better. I am starting to get a little excited now!!
          BTW....tests went well. They don't think that the breast mass is anything of concern.
          THank you to everyone!!! It makes me feel a lot better knowing that Im not alone in this. I am sorry to all of you that are having a hard time as well.
          Good luck!!!

          #15 Christine

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          Posted 12 February 2007 - 10:08 PM

          Andrea I hope that things get better for you. I actually had some of that going on and changed my destination to some place closer to my friends and family.
          What if you have a small wedding in Mexico, then have a nice gathering at home with your parents and others who couldn't come. Not sure if that is something that can even happen for you, but who knows.
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          #16 PaulaV

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            Posted 12 February 2007 - 11:18 PM

            Oh Andrea, I am feeling this way today as well so I have no good advice! My sister has made me rethink all of my plans, because of the expense to every one else.

            I am glad to hear that your tests went well!

            #17 starchild



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              Posted 13 February 2007 - 02:18 AM

              If it makes you feel better my fiance's sister and husband are the only guests from his family, and most of them live closer to Mexico than we do. He called his parents to chat the other day, they spoke for 3 hours, and not once did his mom or dad even mention the wedding, let alone apologize for not making an effort to attend.

              I have a few aunts and uncles who raised me that who think it's too much to spend to attend a wedding. Keep in mind they could pay for 50 people to go and would still have money left to count. That irks me but whatever. My broke friends have been on payment plans for months to attend.

              You'll have a beautiful day and everyone who attends will make it very special. At least you know what you're dealing with in advance and won't be let down or surprised at the last minute.

              The main thing is your health and I'm glad the tests went well :)

              #18 destinationbride07

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                Posted 13 February 2007 - 11:30 AM

                well the sole purpose of a DW (well for some) is to limit guest to just close family....and just like TammyM said, you have time, people may still come. My original expectation was 5-10 now I am looking at 28 people! 8 people this week booked trips...

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