I am sorry to hear about your situation. It sucks to have your FI and MIL change their mind. We are not having AHR because we just can't afford it. We could have a BIG wedding with everyone back in Baltimore but that's just not what we wanted. I do think a small party with people who want to come for Mardi Gras and see you guys all at the same time can work out. You can show all your wedding pictures and just PARTY. It doesn't have to an official AHR.
Hopefully you can make up your mind and don't stress out about this anymore. You have the wedding to plan!!!
Originally Posted by dstinationdrmr
Ok Ladies, I'm finally caught up since I was gone. It took me 3 days!! Lol.
In the past week FI and I have come to the decision that we will probably not have an AHR as we planned. I'm kinda bummed but kinda relieved at the same time. I feel like it was too much for me to plan and the fact that it was going to be Mardi Gras weekend, things were just really pricey. We would have spent the money we saved doing a DW on the AHR. Also, FI spent the week at home vitising his parents and they said that they thought it was too much to have to come to MX in Nov then have to turn around and come to N.O. in March. I kinda understand this, but at the same time I'm a little disappointed in this. FI and I have been living together for 3 years and not once have they been to visit. I think it's because his mom isn't keen on our pre-marital living arrangement but that's just specualtion. We could be living in a matchbox for all they know. I'm ok with not having a huge party. I was always fine with just having our wedding in MX and calling it a day. FI and his mom were the ones pushing to have an AHR because a lot of their family will not be there.
Anyway, now I'm torn because we put it in everyone's heads that we were going to do something that weekend. We even paid a deposit on the venue. Now, some people that I wanted to be involved in some way aren't going to be involved at all, i.e. my grandmother and uncle. We still wanted to do something but if his parents and possibly his BM won't be there I think it's a little pointless. So, one of our thoughts is to just do something like a bbq or a random party but not necessarily have that be connected to our wedding. I feel that this would be a fun idea especially since it will be Mardi Gras weekend. Or we can have an AHR for our one year anniversary. Any thoughts? Anyone going thru something similar?
Thanks! I will have to search for the forum. I have started the list but got nowhere yet. This is one item I am procrastinating on. Not the most exciting part of the planning for me.
Originally Posted by amybermuda
Welcome Michelle! My 1st piece of advice is to get a good Travel Agent!!! One that specializes in DWs or group travel. Glad you found the forum; it will keep you sane
Chong, There are a couple good threads on BDW where people have placed their song lists. Do a search. Do you have enough posts to download? My "last song" of the night was Take a Chance on Me by ABBA. Everyone loved it.
Meredith, Who are you having your AHR for? If his parents are coming to Mexico, then the AHR is not for them, right? Are there guests who are not able to come to Mexico you really want to celebrate with? Can they come to NO? I really wanted my 90 year old grandpa to be there -- he was able to make an hour or so in Maryland -- so it was worth it to me.
I have to be honest here, while I had a great time at my AHR, it was a bit anti-climatic. I don't regret having an AHR, I am just saying after my wedding was over I was a little relieved that it was over - and then I had to do the AHR stuff... The week of, I was really excited, but the weeks leading up to it was more of a chore.
Thanks! I will look for your list sometime in the future.
Originally Posted by daniepps
I paid about $15 for my dress to be cleaned. I sent them the dress on Fri and told them the wedding was on Sat at 3. My bridesmaids send their dresses on Friday and got them back on Friday so I called to check on mine and they told me it would be ready on Saturday at 3! I guess they were under the impression that I didn't need the dress until 3pm so if anyone does use them make sure they're clear on when you need it. After I spoke with them they did end up having it ready by 11am and it looked fine to me.
The wedding was scheduled for 3pm and I was late of course so it started around 3:40. The temps had to be in the mid 90s and it was super sunny! It didn't cool down during the reception either (but then again maybe that could be attributed to the lemon drop shots!!! LOL)
I can share the list. It's going to have to be later in the week though. The ceremony was at 3pm. Our photographer was actually the best man's brother. He and DH grew up together. He actually retired from photography but came out of retirement for our wedding for which I'm sooooo grateful!
And thanks for all the compliments and well wishes from everyone!!!!