I'm having my guest receive them beginning of May and rsvp is due June 15. That gives me two months to get menu together and sent in. I believe we have to have menu selected 60days in advance.
Coming back from the BdR totally relaxed me and gave me full confidence in the hotel making my day special.
It helped me with decor ideas. Also getting to know the grounds and how the hotel is laid out helped me better answer my guests questions on which room to pick.
It helped to try out the resort as a guest so I could view the resort from the view point of my guest and give them helpful travel hints to make their experience better.
Overall I'm glad I did it since my biggest question was how will my guest know to go from the cocktail party to ceremony then ceremony to reception. I have a map for my guest that I labeled but I'm sure we will have guest that won't look at it.
Hopefully that answers some questions.