Have you had any contact with most of these folks since you sent the STD/Invitation? Are people indicating to you that they are thinking about coming but haven't booked yet or RSVP'd? Sometimes when people get something far in advance, they put it off initially, and then kind of forget about the actual due date. I know I'm really bad with that stuff (and now that I've had a wedding, I know how many brides were cursing my name for not sending in the reply card on time). How does the room block work with your contract? Do they need to book by a certain date to get your blocked rooms? My travel agent sent an email reminder to everyone about 2 weeks in advance of our drop date, and then sent another one on that date, or the day before. That way, it was all on her, and I didn't feel like I was pushing people. I still didn't get a response from a decent number of people, but they were mostly people I figured wouldn't come anyway, so I didn't worry about them.
I know it is frustrating. If your travel agent can't send a reminder, you'll have to do it yourself, or have friends and family help you (i.e., have your mom or fiancee's mom get in touch with family members, etc.) And keep in mind that a small group is not a bad thing!! We had about 65 guests, and while we had the best time ever, it was NOT RELAXING AT ALL, because we were constantly running around, trying to spend time with everyone. A lot of days I didn't even see my husband that much because we were running in different directions. As long as you have those people that are most important to the two of you, it'll be perfect. Good luck!
Originally Posted by kathryn83
Can I vent for a minute?
We sent out our STD/Invitation combo in early June and set Oct. 1 as the RSVP online date. Being a DW, I was prepared that not many people would be able to attend, but what I was not prepared for was the complete lack of response. We've heard nothing from almost 70 percent of the guest list. I'm just really hurt and frustrated by it.
I kept holding out hope that maybe people were just waiting to the last minute to decide, but analytics shows that, no, that's not the case, since we had exactly one visitor this weekend and it was likely my mom.