Thanks, will do! Yes, we're only considering all-inclusive resorts. I don't really want to be responsible for providing food and drinks for all of our guests for a 3-4 day trip
I also love the Moon Palace. I've heard that if you bring your vendor with you (i.e. photographer, etc), and they are guests of the hotels then you can get around paying the vendor fees. I have a feeling we'll need to bring a lot of the decor with us to create what we want, but my wedding planner and TA seem to think it's very do-able. And although I haven't met an Indian DW bride yet, I'm sure we're not the first... it's just MUCH more challenging than we originally expected!
Originally Posted by mzgillis316
LOL Wow yea well like I said know you're crowd lololol anyway ...I didnt realize that you havent booked and are still deciding...are you only interested in all-inclusive? The reason why I ask is because I remember when I was looking and the 100+ ppl was an issue for me there were a few other hotels that had beautiful venues for large parties and for w/e reason there werent outside vendor fees ...meaning you had the ability to really create the wedding you wanted and use outside furniture, decorations, flowers and props that were not exclusive to that hotel. I think the few that were my tops were Le Meridian, JW Marriott, and The Ritz. The ppl at Le Meridian were very very nice and were totally willing to negotiate with lots of things...
I don't think they will allow you to have a cocktail hour on top of the terrace due to some type of emergency hazard...when we asked about this in a nutshell they said its too dangerous to have drunk ppl on top of a roof :/ BUT YOu should still ask =)
Originally Posted by SChica927
Thanks everyone for the comments on the size of our party. We're actually sending out invitations to 500+ people -- hence the reason for the destination wedding to begin with! I didn't want too huge of a guestlist so keeping the wedding at home wasn't ideal for me. We are both Indian and we operate where invitations go out to our communities... and my fiance has a HUGE family all of which have been wanting to do a family vacay for a while (and all of which have their passports and all)... plus our bridal party is 22 people... so I'm pretty sure a lot of the friends are coming too.
We also went through our guest list and identified who the most-likely people were to come, and came up with a little more than 200, so realistically, I'm thinking 150 will come.
Anyway, so it sounds like the only ceremony/reception sites that you think would accomodate a group this big are the beach & ballroom right? Do you think if we do a standing cocktail hour, we'd be able to use the sky terrace?! I love that place!!
Thanks again for all the reality checks!
Originally Posted by mzgillis316
ONe more thing I would say is that you have to KNOW your crowd. I knew that my side of the family were not huge on traveling outside of the country. Having them come to my wedding not only involved them getting to Mexico but also obtaining a passport (an additional expense)...Even with this they all said that they were coming and were excited (AND Im pretty close to all of my family)...On my wedding day out of a party of 63 ppl only 8 were there from my family/friends (three of whom I paid for to be there) :/
My husband's family goes on at least two big family vacations a year with about 50-60 ppl...his family is even larger than mines and all of them were hell bent on coming but at the end still were unable to make the sacrifice.
I don't want to discourage anybody but the thing that really kept me from stressing out and not enjoying my wedding planning process was to NOT HAVE TOO MANY EXPECTATIONS...this way I wasn't so disappointed when things weren't going the way I wanted them too or ppl dropped out on me, etc. I was a very relaxed laid back bride and everything turned out amazing! So just relax, understand and EXPECT some individuals that you were positive would be there to probably say that they won't...
My advice- I think if you expecting a huge turn out 85-90ppl is a good place to budget....but once you're first deposit is in you'll have a better idea of where you will be anyway so just wait it out a bit...When you're in the beginning stages don't worry yourself too much about this issue bc so many things will change by the time you get to your big day.