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I work from 6am - 5pm or later (as of late) at a Software Manufacturer in Corporate Sales for the Northeast US. My husband works about 7ft away from me in the same department as a Corporate Sales Manager for the North Central US. He travels, I don't.

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Most of my family is out of town (at least all the cousins) and I can't see any of them actually GOING to the wedding if invited...but I don't want to chance it...I literally just sent out an email a few days ago to get addresses and then FI tells me today that we should cut back...which I totally agree with...but I wish he would have said this last week :)

Is an email saying you're uninvited rude or do I just let it play out and deal with it when I have to? FI wants to post something on our website saying we have decided to go with just immediate family and bridal party..is that ok or super tacky? I think it's a combination of both :)
Well, I was in the same boat. I invited everyone KNOWING they wouldn't come. I sent them all save the dates and never sent them an invite. No one complained at all and they even decided to throw me an AHR. I would just not say anything and don't send anything. Let it play out, I doubt many people will approach you about it. If they do, tell them that due to financial reasons you've decided for it to be immediate family only, people really can't complain especially if it's financial.

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I know you B2B's don't want to stray from wedding talk but if you don't mind indulging me, what do you all do for work?

I know what Amanda does but that's about it!
I'm a Glorified Secretary :) I'm a District Sales Assistant at Paychex (a payroll and human resource company). Been here over 8 years..actually love my job and the company and most everyone I work with (there are a selct few I would like to punch in the face, but..that's life smile41.gif)

What do you do?

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Most of my family is out of town (at least all the cousins) and I can't see any of them actually GOING to the wedding if invited...but I don't want to chance it...I literally just sent out an email a few days ago to get addresses and then FI tells me today that we should cut back...which I totally agree with...but I wish he would have said this last week :)

Is an email saying you're uninvited rude or do I just let it play out and deal with it when I have to? FI wants to post something on our website saying we have decided to go with just immediate family and bridal party..is that ok or super tacky? I think it's a combination of both :)
I wouldn't go the email route. Since you haven't actually sent any STD's or invitations yet, technically no one is "uninvited" yet. An email could really hurt people's feelings and make waves.

Definitely post on your website that you're just doing immediate family and bridal party. That's not tacky at all and will be a good way to get the word out.

Are you doing an AHR? If so, you could send out STD's for that to the non-wedding guests at the same time you send out STD's for the wedding. Then everyone would feel included in some way and they would be able to reference your website for further info.

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I know you B2B's don't want to stray from wedding talk but if you don't mind indulging me, what do you all do for work?

I know what Amanda does but that's about it!
Since I have been out of the loop for a week or two - I 'll chime into the latest. I am an Account Executive at a Marketing/Advertising Agency but I am going to school part time to become an elementary school teacher! (Not the best timing - no jobs, planning wedding, oh well!)

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Most of my family is out of town (at least all the cousins) and I can't see any of them actually GOING to the wedding if invited...but I don't want to chance it...I literally just sent out an email a few days ago to get addresses and then FI tells me today that we should cut back...which I totally agree with...but I wish he would have said this last week :)

Is an email saying you're uninvited rude or do I just let it play out and deal with it when I have to? FI wants to post something on our website saying we have decided to go with just immediate family and bridal party..is that ok or super tacky? I think it's a combination of both :)
I would honestly tell people about wanting to keep the wedding small and keeping your guest list to only immediate family and very close friends. For all your cousins know, maybe you wanted their addresses for wedding announcements!! It does not mean you are inviting someone when you ask for their address - but to be on the safe side I would tell them. Start with the easiest person to talk to and get their advice. I found that having certain people "on our side" regarding a destination wedding was really helpful. So when family members complained/questioned it, there were other people who stood up for us and helped explain our decision.

At first I felt embarrassed when ppl would ask me about when my wedding when I knew they were not getting the invite, but when I told them we were only inviting immediate family & friends - only 40 people total and we both have large immediate families.... - they really understood and thought it was nice to have a small wedding.


Ohhhhhh, 7am to 5pm Amy?! That sounds terrible! Do you leave for lunch/go to the gym?

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Since I have been out of the loop for a week or two - I 'll chime into the latest. I am an Account Executive at a Marketing/Advertising Agency but I am going to school part time to become an elementary school teacher! (Not the best timing - no jobs, planning wedding, oh well!)
Have you been looking at other hotels lately?

I am an insurance broker, mainly working with hospital medical malpractice.

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The only thing I can add is that since no STD have gone out I think your in safe territory. Also I would just keep going with Family and friends. For example for some reason everyone at my work thought they would be invited. I am only inviting one person and technically he is coming along to be my DJ...LOL.

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I know you B2B's don't want to stray from wedding talk but if you don't mind indulging me, what do you all do for work?

I know what Amanda does but that's about it!
I am a marketing director for 2 radio stations in the Houston Market. Been in Radio for 10 years. Love it! I plan radio promotions market the station, etc!

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Hey Ladies! I've been away for a few days and as usual, you Ladies are moving full steam ahead. I needed to get away and not do any wedding planning because I was beginning to get stressed out with the family drama around me. I cannot believe I am posting this on a public forum, but I am having issues with my Mother and she has been making this wedding planning a nightmare as opposed to something fun. I'm her firstborn and only daughter and I guess my expectations of her involvement were/are a little higher than her perception. Anyway, I'm channeling and processing it all and working on beginning to accept that although she has the funds, she just might not be at or involved in my wedding. It hurts, but it is what it is. I just never invisioned my wedding day without my Mom being front row and center stage. Lots of lessons to be learned in life.

Moving past the drama and resisting the urge to emotionally dump here....and back on to weddings!!! We got our STD's back and out in the mail. I will be honest and say that I was on the fence about them and almost hesitated to send them out. We found an awesome seller on Etsy and while I loved all of her other work and samples, I don't think my idea translated over well via email. I wanted something very natural and organic. I love raffia and we are using Burnt Orange as our main color with sand brown and white as accents. After seeing our STD's, I am starting to think we might need another bright accent color. I am a tomboy and not a big fan of pink, so that color is out, although I have seen other weddings and I think those two colors are beautiful together. Any suggestions of an accent color to go with burnt orange that don't give off a "fall wedding" feel are greatly appreciated. Because I know how much we all love photos, my STD's that I sent out are below. We placed thins self-adhesive magnets on the rear so that people could place them on their fridge if they chose to.

Click the image to open in full size.

Any ideas for a pretty accent colorhuh.gif??
Hang in there girl! Your mom will realize the day is about your dream wedding not hers. I hope she will come around soon for your sake.

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