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Hey Ladies,

I have definitely got to get into the swing of reading your posts daily. I'm so behind! I spent a couple days catching up and I'm glad I did. I am so happy to hear that you all are going through similar things that I am!! The beginning of break from BDW was due to Easter, although I did go try on some wedding dresses during my time off. Then, my break from the site got extended because FI and I had a HUGE fight!! To the point we had to sit back and do some soul searching to make sure this was definitely the right thing to do. So, now we're all happy again but I guess since I hadn't been focusing on getting stuff done for awhile, all my helpers fell off!!! wtf.gif

My sister (MOH) sometimes acts like I'm bothering her. My bff (MTOH) is going thru the process of adopting another child (which incidentally may remove her from her MTOH title). My mom...who knows what her issue is? I know that I have been obsessing lately and I mean to the point of tears. I don't want to seem like a brat but I feel like I'm sooo behind in all of this planning stuff and I just don't want to be pulling my hair out the month of. We're getting married in November. I'm in a wedding in October and a co-worker is getting married in December....but I'm the only one still planning stuff!!! Ugh! I don't think it would be so bad if I wasn't in the beginning stages of it all.

On top of me having a huge fight with FI and losing all of my help, my grandmother has decided she's going get a passport!? Why does that bother me you ask? Because when it was told to her that we were doing a DW, her initial reaction was, "Well I won't be able to go because don't have the money for that." Ok, we went into this knowing full well that some people wouldn't be able to afford to come. Problem is....she didn't even know how much it cost @ that point!! voodoo.gif So, me and my mom (being the suckers we are) said that we'd help her out. Never once did she say she was going to take us up on our offer. I just get word that she's going get a passport. So....are you giving me a hint?! Too bad I think the only reason why she wants to come is because she doesn't want to be the only family member left @ home.

Ok, I'm sorry for my rant, but I had to get it off my chest. Sadly, you ladies don't really know me from a can of paint, but the people who do have made me feel like a little brat lately. So, it's nothing but smiles for them lately. They ask how wedding planning is going and I just say, "It's going." So dirtymartini I kinda feel your pain. The only difference is, in the beginning of my engagement everybody was all excited and tripping over themselves to help. I don't know which is worse, starting out thinking you'll have tons of support or starting out with none and prepping yourself for the worst?

Anyway, I'm gonna keep it moving and try to get organized. Next task....photographer.
I can safely say we've all been here or close to it and BTW, you have plenty of time, seriously it's amazing what you can actually get done in 2 weeks!

Regarding the people that want to help you... they need to just get excited again and feel like their needed... I know, I know but it's true. If you yourself and muster up a little excitement go grab coffee with one or a few of them and say, "Hey I'm really getting into planning now and need (fill in the blank) done and thought you'd be PERFECT doing this since you're so creative or good at (fill in the blank). This helps, you need to get people involved or else they feel like they are forcing you.

Also, one lesson I learned... don't wait for people to tell you anything because they won't. Just ask, up front and blatantly. Tell your grandmother, are you planning to come to the wedding? I need to know by (fill in the date) so I can plan for it financially, other than that I will consider you not coming.

I'm sorry if this comes across rude, it's just how it has to be, direct with no fluff and you'll get answers, I hope, haha!

Also, just do one thing at a time... chose a photographer and do nothing else until that's done, then move on to the next item. Keep a list and check stuff off, you'll be moving in no time! I do a to do list for the thread every two weeks, feel free to add some stuff to do and you focus on those items for 2 weeks, it's easier to focus on a small list instead of thinking about your whole wedding all at once.

Vent away my dear, this is why we're all here, we all understand exactly what you're going through and have been there.

Good luck!

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Hey my long lost AS girlfriends... I have been MIA and I have a lot of catching up to do. Let's just say this past week has been the weirdest week ever in my life. Are you ready for this? Because I sure wasn't.....

We're expecting! Unsure of the date still... but it looks like October. Whoops!

I hadn't been feeling like myself, I was tired, my chest was super sore, I was nauseated each morning after I ate breakfast and something just told me the check... and now we have a little whoops! We're happy and we are terrified. We planned on trying right after our wedding... I guess we're just 7 months early. They think I might already by at least 6 weeks already. We haven't told anyone expect our parents and MOH, oh and our WC. We're just waiting for the results of all my blood work, to confirm the date and make sure the babies healthy but obviously changes our plans drastically.

Our WC told us to keep our November date because we have such a good price, but if we have to move it, there's no way we'll get that price after November at the AS. I just don't know if I would want to take a baby that young to Mexico. She then suggested her favorite result in Cuba for January, which is an option. If we have to move it, it will be to move it back, not up. January/ February seems more ideal. But we don't want to put it off longer than that. It's so crazy that something you are looking so forward to can be changed instantly like this. Don't get me wrong, we're super happy, we just weren't expecting this to happen.. and when I mean little whoops... I mean little whoops.

The funny thing is, I've been working out like crazy, eating healthy, losing weight, inches... just let this be a lesson to everyone... LOL
OMG! Congrats Crista, that is some crazy news and you're due right before your wedding, hahaha wow!!! Well yes this certainly changes things quite a bit. I know so many girls that start getting healthy and losing weight and get pregnant, it's good timing body wise for sure you're all healthy and starting good habits. Well congrats, still chat with us and keep us updated please! Let us know your decision of course grouphug.gif

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Yes, I feel so good. I don't think super hot, but I am comfortable in a bathing suit again which I have not felt for close to 2 years, so that's awesome.

You and Amy super motivated me to start this process and Wendy kept me going with her own personal success story.

What would I do without BDW??!!!huh.gif
AMY!!!! 18LBS!?! OMG, that's INCREDIBLE! Is this a magic grill pan seriously I want one!

You should be so, so proud of yourself! WAAHOOO!!

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Your posts are so positive! Thanks for helping us girls out!!!!
Honestly there was 2 moments on our wedding day that i wanted to burst out crying ( not happy tears) because things were not working as planned. I just decied then and there it wasnt worth ruining the rest of the night with angry tears, grabbed another drink and made the best of it. Even when i ended uo dancing on the couch by myself i had fun ( everyone was near by but didnt want to dance on the couch ) :)

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Katie - can't wait to see your hen night pictures! Sounds like you're staying positive which is amazing, I can't seem to quite get there lately, tell me your secrets, LOL!

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We're expecting! Unsure of the date still... but it looks like October. Whoops!
OMG Crista!!!!! Congratulations! I got goosebumps reading this. I am so happy for you and FI. I mean, yes the wedding planning and all the work you have done just to change the date sucks, but WOW! You little fertile mertile you :) What a shock!!!!!!! I think your reproductive system liked Insanity! (or was it P90X)...

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Also, one lesson I learned... don't wait for people to tell you anything because they won't. Just ask, up front and blatantly. Tell your grandmother, are you planning to come to the wedding? I need to know by (fill in the date) so I can plan for it financially, other than that I will consider you not coming.

Also, just do one thing at a time... chose a photographer and do nothing else until that's done, then move on to the next item. Keep a list and check stuff off, you'll be moving in no time! I do a to do list for the thread every two weeks, feel free to add some stuff to do and you focus on those items for 2 weeks, it's easier to focus on a small list instead of thinking about your whole wedding all at once.

Vent away my dear, this is why we're all here, we all understand exactly what you're going through and have been there.
And this is why my dear friend AMY IS MEMBER OF THE MONTH!!!! Such good advice Ames. It makes me feel better I hope it does you too!

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And this is why my dear friend AMY IS MEMBER OF THE MONTH!!!! Such good advice Ames. It makes me feel better I hope it does you too!
Thanks girl!!! Winning MotM has been the most exciting and flattering this so far this month! I am so lucky to be surrounded my amazing and supportive woman like yourself :)

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Hey my long lost AS girlfriends... I have been MIA and I have a lot of catching up to do. Let's just say this past week has been the weirdest week ever in my life. Are you ready for this? Because I sure wasn't.....

We're expecting! Unsure of the date still... but it looks like October. Whoops!

I hadn't been feeling like myself, I was tired, my chest was super sore, I was nauseated each morning after I ate breakfast and something just told me the check... and now we have a little whoops! We're happy and we are terrified. We planned on trying right after our wedding... I guess we're just 7 months early. They think I might already by at least 6 weeks already. We haven't told anyone expect our parents and MOH, oh and our WC. We're just waiting for the results of all my blood work, to confirm the date and make sure the babies healthy but obviously changes our plans drastically.

Our WC told us to keep our November date because we have such a good price, but if we have to move it, there's no way we'll get that price after November at the AS. I just don't know if I would want to take a baby that young to Mexico. She then suggested her favorite result in Cuba for January, which is an option. If we have to move it, it will be to move it back, not up. January/ February seems more ideal. But we don't want to put it off longer than that. It's so crazy that something you are looking so forward to can be changed instantly like this. Don't get me wrong, we're super happy, we just weren't expecting this to happen.. and when I mean little whoops... I mean little whoops.

The funny thing is, I've been working out like crazy, eating healthy, losing weight, inches... just let this be a lesson to everyone... LOL
Congratulations Crista!! That is so exciting :) Let us know what date you choose!

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Congratulations Crista!! That is so exciting :) Let us know what date you choose!
Meghan, We met with Marisa on Saturday and the new reservations manager Michelle at the Wedding Holiday. They we're absolutely great and calmed us down, answered a lot of questions and are totally assisting us with new quotes, options and everything! They totally made booking with them worth every penny after this little speed bump!

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OMG! Congrats Crista, that is some crazy news and you're due right before your wedding, hahaha wow!!! Well yes this certainly changes things quite a bit. I know so many girls that start getting healthy and losing weight and get pregnant, it's good timing body wise for sure you're all healthy and starting good habits. Well congrats, still chat with us and keep us updated please! Let us know your decision of course grouphug.gif

Thanks so much Amy! I will definitely keep you guys updated. My FI definitely doesn't want to switch resorts, nor do we want to lose our date. It's my FI's parents wedding date and it meant a lot to them that we were getting married the same day. Which we were suprised by FMIL's reaction when we told her last week, she seemed a little more concerned about Mexico than having a grandbaby. But then again, maybe it was just shock. We're not going to let it get us down. We've already discussed hiring a nanny for Mexico! LOL Plus the AS is supposed to be awesome for little ones... maybe not that little but at least it's not an adults only resort because that would really suck right about now.

Amy Bermuda - Thanks so much! The P90X, body pump, yoga classes I've been taking really did a number on me! I'll just have to be more careful next time around!

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