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I know, isnt it crazy!?.  I couldn't believe it!  Thats one thing I've been mentioning to girls setting up their website... dont spend too much time "perfecting" every detail because they wont read it anyways!  They might look at the pictures, but thats about it :)  Haha. 

 


 

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You would be shocked. I have people still emailing me for the booking instructions even though I have sent them out twice and it's on our website


 


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Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to check in and vent a little bit, I am very stressed!  So long story short, our final payments are due today, which is fine and I have known is coming for a looonng time!  Unfortunatley, FI's parents are apparantly super financially irrespsonsible and don't have their money ready to pay ON TIME!!  So know I am supposed to do what?  FI wants me to call the TA and just tell him to extend the deadline as they can't pay right now.  I have just exactly enough to pay for myself and FI trip on my card or I would put their trip on.  FI doesn't have a credit card either (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree?! )  I am so irritated and I don't know what to do.  I can't help it his family is completley irresponsible and can't get thier *&^$ together.  Anyways, I don't know what to do or what TA will say, but I guess I can only ask.  I can pay a part of thier trip, the deposit has already been paid.  So thanks for letting me vent a little, I am very upset.  Also already I have more family coming than him, he only has his parents and one sister coming, so he is very upset too that they are not getting it together.  I have to phone FMIL today, please give me the wisdom to be very calm and polite while speaking to her, cause I feel like saying a lot of things I probably shouldn't, like aren't you the parents?  Start acting like it!!  I wouldn't be so annoyed if it was just that they couldn't afford it, but they did just buy a flat screen t.v at christmas and his Dad went on a trip with friends, so what does that say!  
Thanks ladies, I can't vent to just anybody, especially about his parents LOL!

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That sound super fustrating. That is what this forum is for so vent away. My advice is the same I have to give myself. Worry about you and your FI only and let everyone else worry about themselves. It's a hard thing to do and lord knows I struggled with it but eventually it's for the best!

Hang in there. Hope you get good news
 

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Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to check in and vent a little bit, I am very stressed!  So long story short, our final payments are due today, which is fine and I have known is coming for a looonng time!  Unfortunatley, FI's parents are apparantly super financially irrespsonsible and don't have their money ready to pay ON TIME!!  So know I am supposed to do what?  FI wants me to call the TA and just tell him to extend the deadline as they can't pay right now.  I have just exactly enough to pay for myself and FI trip on my card or I would put their trip on.  FI doesn't have a credit card either (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree?! )  I am so irritated and I don't know what to do.  I can't help it his family is completley irresponsible and can't get thier *&^$ together.  Anyways, I don't know what to do or what TA will say, but I guess I can only ask.  I can pay a part of thier trip, the deposit has already been paid.  So thanks for letting me vent a little, I am very upset.  Also already I have more family coming than him, he only has his parents and one sister coming, so he is very upset too that they are not getting it together.  I have to phone FMIL today, please give me the wisdom to be very calm and polite while speaking to her, cause I feel like saying a lot of things I probably shouldn't, like aren't you the parents?  Start acting like it!!  I wouldn't be so annoyed if it was just that they couldn't afford it, but they did just buy a flat screen t.v at christmas and his Dad went on a trip with friends, so what does that say!  
Thanks ladies, I can't vent to just anybody, especially about his parents LOL!



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Ok This picture does not do it justice but I bought the cutest Turtle table number holders last night from Etsy and since i have a turtle in my monogram I thought it would tie together nicely. We aren't doing too much decorating on the tables so trying to keep it simple.

 

Etsy Seller is bitspeaces

 

custom order 8 self standing turtle place card holders

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Ugh, sorry Colleen. That is just un-necessary stress. Hope they can pull it together for you! I can relate somewhat. I don't think my fam will be able to cover their trip for 3 people. So I'm gonna have to foot the bill for that. If I didn't, fi and I would be doing great at getting stuff paid off. I work two jobs and really didn't want to go into debt for this wedding. And I'm trying to get out of my momma if she kept the 500 I already gave her so I can put that toward the bill. So, ugh... I see what your going through. Money is I think my biggest stressor! Anywho, good news is I have a job interview today! I'll have to start commuting but I hate my current job so at this point, I hope all goes well!

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Good luck Tisha!  Just make sure it's a job you love!  I commute an hour or more each way to work and get up at 5am everyday, I hate it lol.  But I do love my job and gotta pay for the house we are commuting back and forth too!  Thanks for listening ladies.  I am hoping everything will work out.  It is just really stressful and all money related! 

p.s those turtles are amazing, they will look great on your tables!

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Originally Posted by Mahalo79 View Post

 

Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to check in and vent a little bit, I am very stressed!  So long story short, our final payments are due today, which is fine and I have known is coming for a looonng time!  Unfortunatley, FI's parents are apparantly super financially irrespsonsible and don't have their money ready to pay ON TIME!!  So know I am supposed to do what?  FI wants me to call the TA and just tell him to extend the deadline as they can't pay right now.  I have just exactly enough to pay for myself and FI trip on my card or I would put their trip on.  FI doesn't have a credit card either (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree?! )  I am so irritated and I don't know what to do.  I can't help it his family is completley irresponsible and can't get thier *&^$ together.  Anyways, I don't know what to do or what TA will say, but I guess I can only ask.  I can pay a part of thier trip, the deposit has already been paid.  So thanks for letting me vent a little, I am very upset.  Also already I have more family coming than him, he only has his parents and one sister coming, so he is very upset too that they are not getting it together.  I have to phone FMIL today, please give me the wisdom to be very calm and polite while speaking to her, cause I feel like saying a lot of things I probably shouldn't, like aren't you the parents?  Start acting like it!!  I wouldn't be so annoyed if it was just that they couldn't afford it, but they did just buy a flat screen t.v at christmas and his Dad went on a trip with friends, so what does that say!  

Thanks ladies, I can't vent to just anybody, especially about his parents LOL!

Call your TA and see if you can get an extension. We had a number of guests who got an extension and had to pay just 4 weeks before they left. Don't pay for it yourself! Even though I know it's hard not to! Tell your FMIL when you talk to her (calmly) that the due date is here, and that payment is due! And if they ask for help, state that unfortunately you only have room to pay for your trip and the wedding payments. Leave it at that. (hopefully you will know that they have some extra time, because it's been arranged with the TA) But you don't want to tell them they now have an extra couple of weeks....After all they are adults.

 

I also know about the commute thing. We actually just bought a house further away (so that we can afford a family home) in Burlington. But I will be commuting into Toronto, the only saving grace is I work shift work, so I will usually avoid the rush hour traffic.

 

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Ugh, sorry Colleen. That is just un-necessary stress. Hope they can pull it together for you! I can relate somewhat. I don't think my fam will be able to cover their trip for 3 people. So I'm gonna have to foot the bill for that. If I didn't, fi and I would be doing great at getting stuff paid off. I work two jobs and really didn't want to go into debt for this wedding. And I'm trying to get out of my momma if she kept the 500 I already gave her so I can put that toward the bill. So, ugh... I see what your going through. Money is I think my biggest stressor!

 

Anywho, good news is I have a job interview today! I'll have to start commuting but I hate my current job so at this point, I hope all goes well!

Best of luck on your job interview!

 

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I would agree with the previous advice.

 

Deep breath. Remember what is important.

 

I wouldn't pay for them that is going to cause you more financial uncertainty and more stress.

 

Phone and see if they will extend but then put the situation into the FMIL hands. You cannot be responsible for everyone you have enough going on. They should should sort it out themselves. They are grown adults!! And like you say they are the parents..

 

Hope you feel better for venting.

Originally Posted by Mahalo79 View Post

Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to check in and vent a little bit, I am very stressed!  So long story short, our final payments are due today, which is fine and I have known is coming for a looonng time!  Unfortunatley, FI's parents are apparantly super financially irrespsonsible and don't have their money ready to pay ON TIME!!  So know I am supposed to do what?  FI wants me to call the TA and just tell him to extend the deadline as they can't pay right now.  I have just exactly enough to pay for myself and FI trip on my card or I would put their trip on.  FI doesn't have a credit card either (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree?! )  I am so irritated and I don't know what to do.  I can't help it his family is completley irresponsible and can't get thier *&^$ together.  Anyways, I don't know what to do or what TA will say, but I guess I can only ask.  I can pay a part of thier trip, the deposit has already been paid.  So thanks for letting me vent a little, I am very upset.  Also already I have more family coming than him, he only has his parents and one sister coming, so he is very upset too that they are not getting it together.  I have to phone FMIL today, please give me the wisdom to be very calm and polite while speaking to her, cause I feel like saying a lot of things I probably shouldn't, like aren't you the parents?  Start acting like it!!  I wouldn't be so annoyed if it was just that they couldn't afford it, but they did just buy a flat screen t.v at christmas and his Dad went on a trip with friends, so what does that say!  
Thanks ladies, I can't vent to just anybody, especially about his parents LOL!



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Ok Ladies, So I have been on the search for the Unisa Kylee shoe but gave up

Today i found these and they are a good runner up. These are my Ceremony shoes for the beach (They were $16 with coupon at endless.com)

Onex Porsha

 

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And these are my reception shoes for when we are up poolside at my reception location (RSVP is the brand zappos.com)

 

rsvp Monica

 

So Happy - Plus I have been flip flopping on jewelry so the shoes just made the call. Going with Gold which I look better in anyway!!!

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