What would you do if you got an email like this?
Posted 18 June 2008 - 03:26 AM
That being said, some people really wanted to do their own thing even after I explained everything to them - so they have booked in a big AI and are just coming for the wedding. I think if you have explained everything to them (including the day pass fee if they want to come to PF to participate in the events you might be planning) and they still want to go elsewhere, it is their vacation and they should do what they want....just my thoughts!
Posted 18 June 2008 - 03:31 AM
Just saying, "we would like to stay at XYZ resort, would this be okay with you" would have been more than enough. I certainly don't imagine the intention was to be rude.
Posted 18 June 2008 - 08:23 AM
I would respond simply by saying that you totally understand. But don't forget to remind them that there will be a day pass fee (if there is), that you won't be able to pick up. As long as they've budgeted for it, and there aren't any surprises, it should be fine. For the days that there are wedding events, they'll probably be hanging out with you, and the days that there aren't, you'll be happy to have some time alone with your DH.
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Posted 18 June 2008 - 09:04 AM
I totally understand them wanting to stay somewhere they like since it is their money and vacation time, however I agree a simple " we really like such and such resort and would love to stay there if you do not mind" would have been more appropriate.
Posted 18 June 2008 - 09:14 AM
Posted 18 June 2008 - 09:38 AM
I would listen to their recommendations and then say, Thank you for your opinions, which we will consider.
Then decide on the resort YOU want. It's YOUR wedding.
Maybe you can try to incorporate a few things/ideas that they want (activities offered at the resort/all-inclusive), but ultimately, I dont think you should have to give up the place where YOU want to wed for anyone. Ever.
Posted 18 June 2008 - 04:30 PM
Posted 18 June 2008 - 04:49 PM
If you have lots planned that they may miss out on or would cost them more money in the long run, I would definitely tell them. They obviously would have to weight out their pros and cons to determine if missing out on all the stuff is justifiable for a resort more to their liking.
Posted 18 June 2008 - 05:11 PM
A lot of the people who have said they are coming to our wedding have done the same and I think its great, we'll see them for the wedding and thats it time alone. We've told them there will be a fine and they are fine with it.
Posted 18 June 2008 - 05:20 PM
but i don't see a problem with guests staying somewhere else since it is their vacation and their $$ being spent.
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