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#11 DanielleNDerek

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    Posted 12 June 2008 - 01:15 PM

    Do you want to get married in the church before? or are you just doing it to appease your fmil?

    As a Catholic, it might help you later down on the line to be married in church first or to have a blessing done. I know they can sometimes give you a hard time when you have your kids baptised or if you want to be a godparent to someone else's kids.

    Oh and fi shouldn't have you handle it, it's his mom so that's his job. lol
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    #12 JennyK

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      Posted 12 June 2008 - 01:18 PM

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      jenny, yes, they absolutely do that. you DO have to still go thru pre-cana. i recommend contacting your local parish and get it over with as soon as you can. its not worth it to fly someone down to cancun, and a catholic priest WILL NOT do a ceremony on the beach. sometimes a catholic deacon will (just FYI). if you do the little mass at home first, that can also be your legal marriage here in the US and then your DW can just be symbolic, which im guessing will probably save you a bunch of money to not have to do the legal shiz down in MX. you'll get your marriage certificate a lot sooner too and no translations needed for insurance purposes and whatnot. i'm well-versed in what you can & can't do as a catholic since we're dealing with it on two ends from the US catholic church & the mexican catholic church rules too. PM me if you have questions anytime!
      I don't mind pre-cana.. I'm going to get in touch with my church here.. maybe do it the week before I leave for Cancun.. So if I do it this way, anyone can do the symbolic ceremony right?

      #13 JennyK

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        Posted 12 June 2008 - 01:21 PM

        Quote:
        Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek
        Do you want to get married in the church before? or are you just doing it to appease your fmil?

        As a Catholic, it might help you later down on the line to be married in church first or to have a blessing done. I know they can sometimes give you a hard time when you have your kids baptised or if you want to be a godparent to someone else's kids.

        Oh and fi shouldn't have you handle it, it's his mom so that's his job. lol
        I don't mind doing it before if it can be done.. I am doing it to please her but you are right.. it might be best if I want to baptize my kids there also..

        #14 Maura

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        Posted 12 June 2008 - 01:21 PM

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        Originally Posted by JennyK
        I don't mind pre-cana.. I'm going to get in touch with my church here.. maybe do it the week before I leave for Cancun.. So if I do it this way, anyone can do the symbolic ceremony right?
        you bet momma --- literally ANYBODY! it's not legal anyway ;-) you can have just about anybody who'll do it! (i think its a nice way to include someone you love too -- like how abbie's BIL is doing their ceremony in mexico because theyll already be married legally before they go to MX)

        #15 Yvette

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          Posted 12 June 2008 - 01:28 PM

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          I think though that if your MIL wants a priest so much, she should at least offer to pay for the costs... LOL, if she's doing her own research I hope one day she doesn't randomly book a priest for you!
          oh my gosh i was thinking the exact same thing!
          don't give in to what other people want, it's your wedding day. spend it the way you want! it's so easy to get caught up in doing what other people want just to make them happy or shut them up. good luck!

          #16 Nrvsbride

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            Posted 12 June 2008 - 02:04 PM

            Jenny I think you will have a lovely mass ceremony at home that will make your FMIL happy and will be hassle free for you with the legal requirements. Then you just get anyone to do your symbolic ceremony. You can still keep the minister you were going to have do your ceremony anyway, it just won't be legal. And now you don't have to get prodded and poked by needles for the blood tests! YAY!

            #17 Jen_S

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              Posted 12 June 2008 - 02:10 PM

              We are planning on doing a catholic cer. but probably after our beach wedding. We will invite only close family members who could not travel will be there.
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              #18 JennyK

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                Posted 12 June 2008 - 02:11 PM

                Quote:
                Originally Posted by Nrvsbride
                Jenny I think you will have a lovely mass ceremony at home that will make your FMIL happy and will be hassle free for you with the legal requirements. Then you just get anyone to do your symbolic ceremony. You can still keep the minister you were going to have do your ceremony anyway, it just won't be legal. And now you don't have to get prodded and poked by needles for the blood tests! YAY!
                anything to avoid needles lol j/k

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                #19 monicaswave

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                  Posted 12 June 2008 - 02:26 PM

                  Jenny yes it can be done!!!

                  My FI and I are doing just that. We are both catholic and really want to get married through the church but were torn when we found out a priest will not absolutely do it on the beach. Our parents were also pushing for us to get married through church. I even had my grandmother who lives in Mexico and is sooooo involved with the church try to find out but they will not do it. So....we are going to get married through the church 3 days before we leave for our DW. As a matter of fact, we are not even having a full mass. The only people that will be there will be my FI and I and our parents. I don't plan to wear my gown either, just a white suit or something and the ceremony will take place on a weekday at 4pm.

                  The church we attend to is very popular with weddings and it would have been impossible to get a date for this year but I explained to them what we were doing and how we didn't want the whole ceremony and they were able to squeeze us in so just talk to your local church. Oh yeah, and we do have to go through the precana classes. We start our first class this Fridday. Good Luck!

                  #20 JennyK

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                    Posted 12 June 2008 - 02:34 PM

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                    Originally Posted by monicaswave
                    Jenny yes it can be done!!!

                    My FI and I are doing just that. We are both catholic and really want to get married through the church but were torn when we found out a priest will not absolutely do it on the beach. Our parents were also pushing for us to get married through church. I even had my grandmother who lives in Mexico and is sooooo involved with the church try to find out but they will not do it. So....we are going to get married through the church 3 days before we leave for our DW. As a matter of fact, we are not even having a full mass. The only people that will be there will be my FI and I and our parents. I don't plan to wear my gown either, just a white suit or something and the ceremony will take place on a weekday at 4pm.

                    The church we attend to is very popular with weddings and it would have been impossible to get a date for this year but I explained to them what we were doing and how we didn't want the whole ceremony and they were able to squeeze us in so just talk to your local church. Oh yeah, and we do have to go through the precana classes. We start our first class this Fridday. Good Luck!
                    thats exactly what I wanted.. no mass.. just the important stuff




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