What is the biggest source of conflict in your relationship?
Posted 17 June 2008 - 05:42 PM
I get soo sick of hearing about all their antics and he then expects me to be nice to them!! So a few weeks ago when he accused me of "snipping" about his mother all the time I lost it lol
I told him straight - don't tell me anything about what they say or do to you,I'm not interested, they are not my family and I can't stick them. So when you tell me about all the selfish shit your mother does to everyone it pisses me off and when I say that I'm accused of snipping so keep it shut lmao
Not had a fight since then about them. I admit tho I'm a bugger for rolling my eyes about stuff and he gets really huffy if you upset him - honest it's like having a 5 yr old at times lol The other week he actually told me to get out of his sight!! I walked away, went into the spare room, picked up his bag, threw it at his feet and said right there you go pack it - its my house if anyone is leaving its you and walked away lmao
Good job no sharp impliments about I'd have stabbed him with it!! half the time though I think its because we hardly see each other, ie maybe 1 1/2 days every month, so when he's home for a week we are much better.
Posted 17 June 2008 - 05:47 PM
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Posted 17 June 2008 - 07:15 PM
Our biggest thing now, is cleaning! I am not a neatfreak, but I go crazy with clutter. I hate walking in the door from a long day or work and seeing things so unorganized! FI has selective eyesight. He didn't see his jeans on the end table for 2 weeks!!! I'm tired of picking up after him, so now we're working on him being more observant, and me not being such a nag!
Posted 17 June 2008 - 07:43 PM
| Originally Posted by beachbride08 |
Alyssa, you always have the most interesting polls. My FI and I don't fight that much, but when we do it is usually about him not helping around the house. I am a neat freak and he is the complete opposite. I have grown to be a little more relaxed about the cleaning since living with him, but I still like things neat. I will let things slide for a while and just pick up his stuff and put it away, but I can only it in so much before I explode. I have to beg him to help me do things around the apartment and then when I ask he doesn't help or it takes him 3 days to do something. It is so annoying. On the other hand he gets mad at me because I always leave the lights on when I leave a room, but I only do it if I know I am going back in that room in a few minutes. It drives him crazy, but I figure that is what he gets for not helping me clean more.
Most of the time I pick up after him, but once in a while I get really stressed and freak about "us" needing to clean. He totally helps out, but I feel like I have to direct him as to what to do and I hate doing that, because I don't want to sound like I'm ordering him around!!!
On the other hand, I leave the lights on when I leave the room or downstairs when I go upstairs and the computer on, if I know I'm coming back and I know it bugs him
Posted 22 June 2008 - 11:33 AM
Posted 23 June 2008 - 12:28 PM
This is our first house. And i lived with my parents before this and he was only on his own for a few months before we bought the house. He is very loose with money and i get very upset because i'm in charge of paying the bills. since we bought the house we went a little nuts with buying furniture and we had to get some new appliances. i think we are just a little over our head right now. But i'm working on getting us on track.
Posted 23 June 2008 - 12:41 PM
dh just started a new job last week. it requires him to be in nyc at 7:45 am and leave around 6pm, w/ a 1hr train ride each way. so he's getting up at 5:00, when he used to wake up at 9, and getting home around the same time - 7:30 or so. so when he comes home, he's exhausted, and doesn't feel like doing anything - can't even have a conversation b/c he's so beat. so that's been a bit of a struggle, and combined w/ time management problems, he's a mess (not like i'm a prize, but hey, he's not on this forum b*tching about me...).
Posted 24 June 2008 - 02:32 AM
Don't you love the timeless male cop out of the extremely overused term 'nagging'? I don't allow that word. I'm not his Mom, hypothetically, I'm his roommate and you can't live like a slob in your roommate's space.
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