"Baby" etiquette...

[caroline]

Sorry, if this is the wrong place to post this (?)

 

My very good friend is going to have her second baby. I was not here for the first baby shower (as I was not in Country) and so really want to throw a shower (of sorts...) just to let her know how much she and her familia mean to me!

 

I called her husband about it (a guy I get on really well with) and he told me that they only do that for the FIRST baby... ??!!! Is that so?

 

Either way, I told him I wasn't here for the first - and so am going to host my own for the second... And that's all good... (he's one of those, would never want anyone to go to the hassle)

 

I'm not from the US. If someone were to hold a 'get-together' for you whilst having your second, you would roll with it, right? You'd still be thrilled to have a get-together?!!!

[monicabrandon2008]

Yes, throw a shower for her. She will be thrilled!

 

I have a friend who is having her 3rd child and I'm hosting a shower for her.

[caroline]

Where would he ever have come up with that?! First baby = Shower. Beyond that... nothing! LOL! Is that truly the norm, or is he just clueless? Why would any baby beyond the first not 'get' a celebration?!

[Kryztan]

I think some people think that it is a cry for gifts....I love the idea! I want a shower for all babies that I have. SHE WiLL LOVE IT...SO FUN!

Also there is a little poem for invites talking about a second shower and its really cute. google it.

[Kryztan]

To answer your question. A lot of people only think that you should have one for the first. I SAY CELEBRATE EACH BABY:)

[Pisces]

I think "etiquette" rules say it should only be for the first, but of course you can keep having showers. I think the second and third showers are more about celebrating the birth and the gifts just tend to be a little smaller since the parents are usually much more equipped with stuff. I'm sure your friend will be thrilled!

[caroline]

Ahhh! Now I see why he might have been talking like he was...!

 

OMG! I wasn't here for the first! I'm not saying that what "I" arrange, is going to be any great shakes (LOL) I just want her to know that I love her and am sorry I missed the first one (!) and am so thrilled for the second one! WTF?!!

 

Alright... question answered, I guess. Etiquette? Hardly applies to situations like this. She's having a party. Whether she likes it or not...! LOL

[Agape Gems]

Sometimes people call a 2nd shower a baby sprinkle and ask people to just bring gifts like diapers, baby powder, wipes, etc and the hostess will make a big basket of all the necessities to give at the end of the party. This way the parents don't get a lot of stuff that they already have.

[Birdie07]

Yep. Etiquette sucks. My sister loves to throw that around. The first baby gets the shower on the thought when you have your second you'll have everything you need. However thats bull. If you have a boy and your first was a girl then that kinda sucks. Plus my other sister had her 3rd kid 13 years after so she didn't. But stuck-up sister refused to have a shower for her second only a come over and see my baby thing. Which in my opinion was stupid! So I say throw a party!!!!!! She'll love it anyways. And probably appreciate it too!

[Wishes]

Yep. I plan on having a party for each of my babies too! Not necessarily a baby shower, but at least a BBQ or some party to celebrate their birth. I also don't plan on finding out the sex of the baby so I won't know if I'll have everything I need for a boy/girl the second time around. If anyone is concerned about the etiquette thing, you could always put "no gifts please" on the invitation so people don't feel obligated to have a gift but can also bring one if they want to.

 

It's wonderful that you're throwing a party for your friend...you're a great friend! Can you be my friend?? LOL!