Vent: Wedding party woes....
Posted 06 June 2008 - 01:38 PM
First off, I have a MOH and a BM, my two closest friends in the world. My BM lives in Edmonton (other side of the country from Ottawa) where she just moved last fall. So a little difficult coordinating certain things such as BM dresses and such, but not the end of the world b/c it means so much to me that she'll be there with us on our wedding day. My MOH lives in Ottawa, but she told me last week that she will be most likely moving in October to follow her BF out west to Vancouver when he gets placed there for work. She is excited, but I can't help feeling like it's really going to make the last few months before the wedding very lonely and stressful without my best friend in the world right there to help. Especially b/c she is a Project manager by nature and is taking her role as MOH very, very seriously...requesting that we have formal meetings to sort out all the to-do's...she makes me laugh, because that is sooo not in my nature to stress over it. So this started it.
Then 2 days later, my FI bestman finds out his GF is preggers (major surprise, and totally unplanned) and she's due at the end of January aka during our wedding week....So, he won't be making it, although my man is hoping the dates are wrong, and she'll be due earlier so that his best man can still make it...so bummer #2.
Then this week, we've had a couple of our close friends tell us they probably won't be able to be there, even though they had originally told us they were, b/c of various reasons which are understandable, but still dissapointing....
We knew that when we decided on a DW (which I always wanted to do) that some people weren't going to be there, and that some people would say they would be there will later tell us they couldn't...but it still sucks when there are people that mean alot aren't able to come....
I'm sure I'm not alone, and everyone has probably encountered this sort of thing, but it still sucks...
We are blessed to be having alot of family coming which is great, so it will still be an amazing celebration. Which brings me to the fact that my father has told me that he won't be there either...this happened about 2 months ago though...
He told me that he can't afford to bring his family so he won't be able to make it. His family consists of the woman he married 6 months ago (3rd marriage by the way), which I was told about 1 week before the day and obviously went cause its my dad, and her 4 kids and my 1/2 sister from his second marriage (she's 10 years old)...we'll guess what, I don't need 'his family' there, just mine...aka him and my sis. My brother told him just that and he was speachless...
We haved a strained relationship because of the way he chooses to live his life, but I would have still wanted him to be there....his loss I guess...
Anyways, thanks for listening to this incredibly long rant....I feel better.
Posted 06 June 2008 - 01:44 PM
your dad should realize that he needs to be there and he does not need to drag the whole clan with him! good luck! maybe you should try talking to him?
Posted 06 June 2008 - 02:04 PM
Posted 06 June 2008 - 02:17 PM
My dad won't be there but thats because he lives the other side of the world so just can't make it, FI's mother just re-married and he apparently HAS to come we can't stand him lmao
So really you're lucky you won't have to put up with his "tribe" and you can relax, you'll be fine just take a deep breath tell him he's a prat and you'll feel so much better x
Posted 06 June 2008 - 02:19 PM
It's a bummer your fi last his bestman but it's really great he's having a baby.
And your dad should of tried to come. i'm really glad that you had such a great brother that told your dad how it was. i hope your dad will come to his senses and realize that this is one of the (if not the) most important day of your life and he will be missing it.
Posted 06 June 2008 - 02:34 PM
We are happy for my FI best man, but he's is major shock and they aren't in a position to bring a baby in the world today, so alot will be changing for them in the next 8 months...it is blessing, he just doesn't know it yet....his GF was born to be a mom, in fact, we took a trip one time and I jokingly called her 'mom' the whole week b/c she was super prepared and even brought us healthy snacks on the plane - hahaha.
Posted 06 June 2008 - 03:08 PM
Posted 06 June 2008 - 03:28 PM
As for family, we're paying for FH's parents to come because otherwise they won't come. So on top of trying to work out everything, we know need to come up with another three grand.
The thing that brightens my day is the fact that there are people who are coming - and they're willing to spend 3 grand a couple just to see us get married.
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