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[BarefootBride]

Sounds like my mom
They dont fly anywhere and they arent coming to my wedding! Sucks!

[Dez921714]

**HUGS**

I'm so sorry. Try to look at the positive - they will be there for the ceremony!

If they really are worried about how they'll look to everyone else, point out how they'll look to everything comign in the day before and then leaving the day after. Maybe tell them that everyone will know they don't want to be there?

[kellywinter1]

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Originally Posted by KLC77 They actually really like my fiance. They are just really negative people. They don't really go on vacations. Any idea you come up with they always point out what is wrong with it and NOT in a constructive way. The only reason they don't want to go is because they don't... no good reason. They just don't care... They look at it as more of an impostion than an exciting event. If I told them no one else was coming they would stay home. I just thought that this would be something they would be excited about- I am the first of my siblings to be married. I hoped they would be excited. I guess I should just be happy that they are coming at all... but that is actually stressing me more because now I know they don't really want to be there.

It totally sucks that your parents are not excited about the DW and staying as long as you hoped. But if they are negative maybe its better they aren't there the whole time. I know your stressed that they don't want to be there but be glad you don't have to stress over them the whole time your on vacation celebrating your marriage! You will have a lot of other friends and family that are excited to be there and you will be able to have lots of fun with them!

[Copita]

Aw. I'm sorry you feel sad and that they won't be there very long.
Maybe they just don't want to be in the heat and aren't really into traveling. Some people are that way. My grandmother isn't coming to mine for those exact reasons and there is nada I can do.
On the flip, they are coming to see you get married which is major
Stay positive!

[Yari]

Sorry you are going through this. Is there anyway you can talk to your mother about it? Tell how much it is stressing you out, etc...

[caroline]

Look on the bright side... at least you know that it's just b/c that's the way they are... and it's not b/c they don't approve of FI, would be struggling to pay for the trip, etc. And I'm going to venture to guess that they'll have the same reaction to the next one of your lot getting married!

[jajajaja]

I'm going to bet that although they are complete asses right now, they will end up having fun and regretting that they acted like that to begin with. Since they don't travel much, I bet they are worried about MX. I had a few people like that- they thought I was taking them down to crime central. They just don't realize how nice it really is.

I bet they will have a fabulous time, then regret for dragging their feet and buy you a REALLY nice BBQ to make up for it like my inlaws did. LOL

[Amarillis]

***HUGS****

I have 2 suggestions: #1: Talk to your mother, explain that you are upset and tell her how much it would mean to you to have her there Thursday-Monday - If you think it would help, tell her you need her assistance on Thursday and Monday getting organized!?!

#2. Be appreciative that your parents are going in the first place. I have read many many posts that discuss the fact that some peoples parents (including some brides) don't have their parents there at all.

You are fortunate to have them there. If they decide not to stay the whole four days, try not to let it ruin your four days...

**hugs**

[KLC77]

Thanks for all the feedback girls. I'm starting to feel a little better. I am remembering to be happy with what I do have... which is a great bunch of people who love me and DO want to come... and you guys to vent to!

Thanks!

[monicaswave]

I'm glad you are feeling better. You should seriously not stress too much about it. Like some girls pointed out they will at least be there for the main event. Keep your head up.