Am I crazy?
Posted 30 May 2008 - 07:18 PM
so, I have an issue. My fiance and I cannot agree on a location for our Feb 2010 wedding. He does not want the resort to be more than $1700-1800/person (taxes included). I, on the other hand, think it's okay for it to be $2200 (taxes incl. with group rate...which seems to be the norm of the placed i think would be nice). I mean, as long as we get there, and our parents get there...then we're fine. He wants tons of people to go, while I could care less if anyone comes (as long as our parents come). so I'm looking endlessly at these stupid resort books trying to find a resort that he'd be happy with. I mean, it's our *wedding* not a random trip that we want the best deal on. I don't want to have my wedding at a hole-in-the-wall resort just to save a couple hundred dollars. It was his idea for the destination wedding, and he sold me on the idea. Help me out girls...Am I crazy?
Posted 30 May 2008 - 08:46 PM
Posted 31 May 2008 - 03:08 PM
if so, we do things very different in Canada. We only have the option of ONE WEEK.
That being said, I think somewhere between your and his price is reasonable.
I wouldn't ask guests to pay more then $2ooo
but thats just me - each to their own.
And honestly you can go basically anywhere for that price.
We got one of the top AIs in Mexico - Riviera area for that price.
Posted 31 May 2008 - 03:34 PM
We were looking at the Viva Wydham in the Mayan Riviera and there were 2 with different prices.
Posted 31 May 2008 - 03:43 PM
Posted 31 May 2008 - 03:54 PM
We got a 4.5 star April '09 in Dominican for $1420 taxes in for group rate from Halifax. Regular rate was around $1800. The hardest part will be choosing your resort, believe me it was a weight lifted from my shoulders when we settled on one. I had to consider our families budgets not just ours.
It's good that you are ok with just your parents being able to come, but you should try to reach a compromise with your FH if he envisions a lot of people. Price will be a limiting option for people. I know I said I was ok if it was just me and my FH, but when my brother announced he wasn't going to make it last week I actually cried. Weddings will bring out a lot of emotions.
For prices, depending on when you get married in 2010, start looking around 12 -13 months out. I looked earlier and prices once we hit the 12 month mark dropped by about $150 pp.
Also, have you thought about Cuba. I think it's still slightly cheaper than DR & Mexico. They have some spectacular places for us Canadian brides if you don't have to consider US friends and family joining the celebrations (fingers that someday the embargoes will be lifted). Check out Travel to Cuba Hotels with Sol Melia Cuba Hotel.
Posted 31 May 2008 - 04:00 PM
Posted 31 May 2008 - 09:49 PM
I was kind of caught off guard at the prices of nice hotels in Cancun/RM but mostly because my mom's family always goes for way cheaper (from what I hear). But the thing is that when I look at where they have stayed in the past, I'm sure they had a great time, but it is nowhere that I would ever even think of having my wedding! So I am having a bit of a hard time with my mom too at the moment... every place I show her she says looks "so fancy" with a nervous disaproving voice, which means "it looks too expensive!". Your FI (and my mom!) has to realize that yes this can be a fun family and friends vacation but first and foremost it is your wedding. I think you should try and keep costs in mind, and maybe compromise at say a $2000 per week max... at that price though you will still have a very nice resort for you and your guests. One other thing you may want to consider is booking a resort that has a variety of room categories so that your guests can save money by booking a lower category room but you can still splurge if you like and have the oceanfront suite of your dreams!
So, no I don't think you are crazy. You should love your wedding location, not settle for it so that everyone can afford to come. Hopefully you and FI can compromise a bit on what's an acceptable rate for your guests to pay and find something great that will suit everyone.
Posted 31 May 2008 - 10:20 PM
Posted 01 June 2008 - 12:19 AM
So I would say that if you can't please everyone, you should at least make sure to please yourself!
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