MOH and I broke up (long vent)

[stacey]

Quote:

Originally Posted by nikkianddean Let me know if you need a drinking buddy and I'll hop in my car and come up to Napa!

LOL I could always use a drinking buddy!!!

[stacey]

Thank You for all of your support. I have been dwelling on this problem all day. I decided, that unfortuantly people change, and freindships end. Some freinds are just along for the ride, and this is her stop. I am blessed that I have three other girl freinds in my wedding that are happy to be there with me. I am sad that our freindship had to come to this, but Im glad I found out now, and not a week before the wedding.

 

Thank You again for all of your support.

[Alyssa]

Stacey,

 

i just caught up on this thread and you have a really good attitude about it.

 

It is true, people grow together or grow apart. Weddings bring out the crazy in people and i am just really glad that this happened now, not closer to your wedding and also before you put money down for her!

[Betsy]

Wow. I am sorry for you - weddings truly do bring out people's true colors. At least you are finding out now and not after you spend the money to have her come to your wedding. How immature that she sent the RSVP like that. She has NO reason to be mad at you and that is so juvenile. Hope you are doing okay HUGS!!

[yamille]

Wow that is pretty immature behavior. I suspect that she is really hurting about something in her life. Maybe it's that you are getting married and are younger than her, or her loser boyfriend, or that she is having financial problems. Or any other thing that life may throw your way. The bottom line is that no matter what as a friend she should be supporting you- especially in this happy time in your life. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. It must be really painful to lose your best friend for no real reason. You were generous to offer to pay for her and I am glad that this happened before it was too late and she ruined your wedding day. Sending you happy vibes....

[MEE]

I am so sorry! I know first hand how you feel and what you are going through b/c my MOH and I "broke up" about 2 months ago. Although not for the same reasons, but very similar. She basically got a new job that went to her head and I was no longer "good enough." This was when I was still planning a traditional and huge ceremony in the U.S.

 

In the end it has worked out for the best. Is your ex MOH married? This was a huge issue with mine b/c she was jealous about the fact that I was getting married and she wasn't. It was very childish.

 

Do not let it ruin your day for even a second. In the end it will be her loss. The hardest part for me was explaining it to everyone and then deciding what to do about no MOH. In the end (when the big wedding was still planned) I just decided not to have a MOH and to just have bridesmaids.

 

I am sorry you have to go through this, but some people just can't handle other people being happy!

[ericaandsy]

Stacey,

I'm so sorry to hear this. Looks like we are both in shitty situations!! I think your EX MOH is being very immature. You offered to pay her way, and then she all of a sudden had the $$ to go. Sounds like she has other issues going on that are out of your control. She will regret the way she acted. But most of all in the end she will be the one that is hurt for not being there for her friends big day.

By the way thanks for the virtual glass of wine..that was sweet of you. Right when I saw it I went and had a real one Take care and try not to let this get you down!!

[Angel]

Wow, sorry your going through this. That is really immature of her. But my mom always told me that sometimes we have to go through shit to know who really are our friends.

[beachbride08]

You are probably better off without her. It sounds like she has some issues that she needs to work out on her own and she is taking it out on you.

[Jen_S]

Wow that really stinks she should have been honest if she did not want to go so it would not of hurt your friendship. Sorry you have to deal with this your MOH should be excited for you guys.