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Co-habitating- Good or Bad idea?

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#11 Sandra E.

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    Posted 24 May 2008 - 08:27 AM

    For us it worked out very well, we got engaged in May of last year and moved in together in June (I was in the process of buying a house). So moving in together made sense and we're both glad we did. :)

    #12 Hartyt509

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      Posted 24 May 2008 - 08:43 AM

      Worked for me 2 - saying that as he's in the army he gets home maybe 2x a month for a weekend and that suits me lol getting married won't make any different but by god it'll be hard when he gets out lol I may be back on here asking if anyone has a single brother lmao

      #13 Jen_S

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        Posted 24 May 2008 - 09:54 AM

        I am so glad that Kyle and I lived together first. We have been having a blast!
        Our Honeymoon In Ireland!!

        #14 rodent


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          Posted 24 May 2008 - 10:05 AM

          The "why buy the cow" thing doesn't really apply. These men are not commiting to marry us for the milk :)

          I'm glad we have lived together. We moved from Texas to North Carolina together after only dating for 6 months. We have been living together for 4 years now. I would not have moved in with him out of convenience or to have a good roommate. We did it to really know each other before we decided to get married. We could have gotten married before we moved in together. We knew we wanted to marry each other. But, there were rough patches when we talked about breaking up. I'm glad we worked it out because we wanted to. Not because we were married. We've grown so much together & truely know who the other person is. I feel like it's important to know how a person is in bad times, not just good times. I wanted to see how we communicate about the hard issues like money. We have a very solid partnership now & it makes me feel very confident about our marriage.

          Mike has also been an awesome roommate :) It's been so much fun.

          #15 Jessica

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            Posted 24 May 2008 - 10:37 AM

            I'm all for living together before marriage. Hell, I'm all for living together INSTEAD of marriage.

            #16 beachbride08

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              Posted 24 May 2008 - 11:07 AM

              My FI and I have lived together for over 2 years and I am so glad that we did. We were always together anyway so it just made sense. Although, I wish when we decided to live together we would have moved into a new place rather than me moving into his. It worked out that way since his rent was cheaper, but his place is also a lot smaller. He had the place set up like a bachelor pad and he is a saver so trying to clear the place out to make room for my stuff and some of my furniture was a nightmare. He is also not the neatest person and I am a total neat freak. We have been able to work through some of that, but it is a constant battle. When we didn't live together I didn't mind as much since I could go home and get away from the mess, but now that we live together there is no escaping!

              #17 1elephant

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                Posted 24 May 2008 - 11:54 AM

                we moved in together after 6 months of dating. if we had not lived together, we probably would have had the marriage annulled by now!
                4 years of living together allowed me to see and get used to his living habits, like leaving socks on the floor wherever he takes them off, and letting his clipped toenails fly all around the bathroom (yes, i know - gross!). i would not be up for this kind of surprise after the wedding.
                to be honest, i don't even know how people get married without living together nowadays. considering that 2/3 of marriages end in divorce, i can't imagine buying the car without test driving first. (no offense, props to anyone who does it, but i personally was not taking the chance.)

                #18 stacey


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                  Posted 24 May 2008 - 11:56 AM

                  My FI and I dated for three years before we got engaged. I refused to live with him untill we were engaged. I didnt have a really good reason, it was just my thing that I wanted to wait. We got engaged in August and moved in together at the end of January. We will have been living together for 10 months when we get married. I am happy that I chose to wait to live with him until we were engaged, and I am happy that we live together before we are married. Our relationship is diffrent now that we live together, (diffrent in a good way)
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                  #19 Karen

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                    Posted 24 May 2008 - 12:15 PM

                    Jay and I moved in together a couple of months after we got engaged (about 4 months before our wedding). We had been dating for 2 years when we moved in together. I'm really happy that we did everything when and how we did. Prior to moving in together, we each maintained our own apratments and would see each other several times a week. I never felt like I had to live with Jay to see if we could be compatible living together. I just knew we would. I didn't want to rush our dating stage of our relationship. There is something so nice about your boyfriend picking you up for a date, about him not seeing you get ready to go out, and not having to make practical decisions together. Some of the mystery disappears when you move in together so It was nice that we courted for a bit. I love living with Jay but I also really loved living by myself. I wanted to savor that because I knew in a few years with children I'd be lucky if I go to the bathroom by myself. IMHO, I think everyone should live alone before getting married as it is equally important to know yourself as it is to know the other person before you get married. Of course there is no pat answer that will fit every couple or every person
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                    #20 Alyssa

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                      Posted 24 May 2008 - 01:09 PM

                      Living together was right for us, I think b/c we knew we were going to get married. we moved in together about 1 year into our relationship then got engaged around 3.5 / 4 years. our wedding will be on our 5th year together.

                      so by the time of our wedding, we will have been living together for 4 years.

                      both of us were kind of against the living together thing (unless engaged / married) until we met each other and just never wanted to be apart LOL

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