Originally Posted by FireyNurse
Hey Heidilynn, just thought I would toss my 2 cents in here regarding rsvp's and numbers of people attending. We sent out our save the date EARLY (about 11 months in advance) to let people know it would be a destination wedding and we heard from a ton of people "oh my god, I am so excited, we will be there for sure" type responses and then once our official invites went out and our Travel Agent messaged people as a group to let them know she was at their service people completely dropped off the face of the earth, it was like they'd never known us! LOL! From some other threads I have read on here I have noticed that this isn't completely atypical, though, and it often happens that people say they are in and then never book. Your friends may be different, though, but this is something that may happen too I guess.
Thanks so much, i'm glad i'm not the only one that wants to send out save the dates 11 months ahead of time. We're aiming for the first week of November 2013 for the wedding and I hope to get the invites out the beginning of January. People we've talked to already are super excited, but i'm thinking the same thing will happen, some will be super excited and then when it comes down to putting their money where their mouth is, it will be a different story LOL
A friend of a friend had her guests email RSVP to the save the date, with Yes, No or Maybe and then she only sent the formal invites to the Yes and Maybe's, I'm thinking of doing this as well, of course confirming with the No's that they are FOR SURE no, so they aren't insulted, thinking maybe to send them an email in response to their RSVP with the wedding website address so they could get the info if they decided to change their mind. We have about 130 people to invite, so that's 65 invites, and it seems silly to spend the money sending invitations to people who have clearly expressed they won't be coming, thoughts??
How many months in advance did you send the official invites out?