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#1 FYB87

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    Posted 21 May 2008 - 11:50 PM

    I want to get married in Punta Cana, DR and the FI is okay with that decision. But, now I have found out that some family members will most likely have money issues with going there and with the resort I am wanting to chose. So it was suggested we go to Mexico and I don't want to. I honestly feel like since it is my second wedding (FI's first) I could care less if anyone was their period (they weren't there for the first one). I wanted to get married and go on my honeymoon to somewhere I haven't been before which is the whole point of going to the D.R. Am I being selfish? What would you do?

    #2 Yari

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      Posted 21 May 2008 - 11:52 PM

      I do not feel like you are being selfish. You should get married where YOU want to get married, not where family would like for you to get married. This wedding is about you and your FI. Don't feel guilty!

      #3 Kryztan

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        Posted 21 May 2008 - 11:53 PM

        Nope!!! Dont plan around guests....The ones who want to be there will be no matter the price honestly....DR is beautiful

        #4 rodent

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          Posted 21 May 2008 - 11:59 PM

          Any particular reason not to consider mexico? I was originally trying to avoid mexico because I've been to cancun. I wanted to go somewhere new. But, it was the best price for our guests. I picked riviera maya & I couldn't be more thrilled. There is so much to do there that I didn't do when I was there before. It will be a totally different experience. I would love to go somewhere new, but I'm glad I picked something affordable for my guests. With airfare geting so high it helped that my hotel was cheaper.

          But, I thought DR was inexpensive too.

          I think most important to check with is parents. If they are happy with the price then do whatever you want. Make it clear to guests they don't have to go. Then you don't have to worry about the cost.

          #5 Myda77

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            Posted 22 May 2008 - 12:04 AM

            I think you should get married where you want, and you will be very happy with that decision. There are plenty of places in punta cana that are affordable, so you shouldn't have a problem. If your family members want to be there, they will be there. People are always going to have something to say, and if they want to see you happy they won't stress you.
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            #6 Birdie07

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              Posted 22 May 2008 - 12:05 AM

              No you are NOT selfish. When I was picking places, my BIL was trying to get us to pick TEXAS! I was like "Uhh..no" I live in texas. Why would I want to go there?? Anyways Finally I put my foot down. You pick where YOU want to get married. When they see how awesome a place you picked, they'll come around. Good luck!

              #7 FYB87

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                Posted 22 May 2008 - 12:16 AM

                Quote:
                Originally Posted by Morgan
                Any particular reason not to consider mexico? I was originally trying to avoid mexico because I've been to cancun. I wanted to go somewhere new. But, it was the best price for our guests. I picked riviera maya & I couldn't be more thrilled. There is so much to do there that I didn't do when I was there before. It will be a totally different experience. I would love to go somewhere new, but I'm glad I picked something affordable for my guests. With airfare geting so high it helped that my hotel was cheaper.

                But, I thought DR was inexpensive too.

                I think most important to check with is parents. If they are happy with the price then do whatever you want. Make it clear to guests they don't have to go. Then you don't have to worry about the cost.
                I didn't want to go to Mexico because I've been there before and I've had friends get married there too.


                Thanks ladies for all of your responses. This does make me feel a little better.

                #8 Yari

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                  Posted 22 May 2008 - 12:19 AM

                  Glad to hear you feel better. Planning a wedding is stressful no matter if it's a DW or not. I always want to please everyone, but I finally decided to put my foot down and do as I please.

                  #9 Pisces

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                    Posted 22 May 2008 - 01:18 AM

                    Not selfish at all. This is your wedding and your location is not something you should compromise on. You just need to be prepared that not everyone you want or expect to be there will be.

                    When we first got engaged and I told everyone our plans and my mom also suggested Mexico. She also wanted me to move it to be in the summer or September. The entire reason we chose the winter is because I wanted to be away during the rainy season here. I understand the concern; we are going to an expensive location at the most expensive time. But I'm a teacher, so I am bound by school holidays. I REALLY did not want a summer wedding.

                    Sadly, my best friend and my sister won't be there, but they have made choices that they need to make and I don't have any ill feelings about it. It makes me very sad to know they won't be there, but not enough to make me completely change the course of our wedding. If I did, I know I would regret it.

                    Stick to your guns with this one. You know you want DR, so just as long as your okay with people not being there, don't back down.
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                    #10 DanielleNDerek

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                      Posted 22 May 2008 - 10:17 AM

                      I had so many people trying to push Mexico on me, and i really didn't want to get married there. I've been to Mexico several times and fsil got married there. I wanted something different so i chose pc. There are a ton of resorts that are inexpensive if your family wants to stay there and just pay day pass for PPC. Or can't they just go for like 4 days at the PPC?
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