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#1 KHarrod

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    Posted 15 May 2008 - 01:06 PM

    My FI and I have a timeshare that we use to take yearly vacations with. This year we have plans to go to Cancun for a week in September. The room for the resort is already paid for the week. I told him yesterday that I think we should purchase our tickets now since the airfare is increasing. He said that he would research the prices, he then emailed me and said that the flights were too expensive. He told me to cancel the trip and we can take the money that would spend in Cancun and save it for our wedding. I didn't like that idea because I'm so excited about going to Cancun, especially for my birthday. Am I being selfish and spoiled or is he right?

    #2 Rachelle E.

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      Posted 15 May 2008 - 01:12 PM

      Well, I don't think either of you is really "right" or "wrong". You both just have different priorities. He is being really practical. Yeah, if you're needing/wanting more money for the wedding, an additional trip to Cancun doesn't make much sense. That being said, if part of it is already paid for, you're losing money (and a trip) by not going...which isn't particularly practical either.

      To me that's what it boils down to...do you want to/need to be uber-practical and save every extra penny for the wedding? Or do you want to/can you afford to have a little fun also and enjoy a break from "wedding land" and do something else for a week?

      Both sides have valid points IMO. You'll just have to come to an agreement at some point. Good luck! ;-)

      #3 jajajaja

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        Posted 15 May 2008 - 01:17 PM

        Ya I agree with Rachelle. There is no right and wrong in this situation. We couldn't vacation before the wedding because we didn't have a lot of free cash floating around. Would I have if we did- absolutely.

        It's WAY less stressful to have all your money set early on before the wedding. We stressed forever trying to figure out how to save up all the money we needed too. We ended up having it all taken care of 3 months before the wedding and we were absoltely thrilled it was taken care of. So much less pressure and fighting!
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        #4 ErinB


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          Posted 15 May 2008 - 01:26 PM

          I agree. Neither of you is right or wrong or spoiled or anything else.

          You just need to sit down together and figure out if you can afford to go or if the money needs to go toward the wedding.

          Could you possibly exchange the time share for a different location that might not be as expensive to get to?

          #5 lucy106

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            Posted 15 May 2008 - 01:35 PM

            I am not afraid.... I agree with you. I am a huge believer in the need for vacations. Your wedding is a little over a year away. Yes you need to save but if the room is paid for and you just need airfare, personally I would try to figure it out. I think vacations are a great bonding experience and necessity for couples. I would try to find a way to make it happen. I understand where your FI is coming from but I would do my best to make that trip happen.

            #6 KHarrod

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              Posted 15 May 2008 - 02:41 PM

              If I try to change it to somewhere else I will lose some of the money , if not all of it.So, basically it's like a no win situation.

              #7 Dez921714

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                Posted 15 May 2008 - 02:47 PM

                I agree neither is right or wrong.

                I also agree in the need for a vacation if you can manage it.

                That being said FI and I are also going to Cacnun at the end of Sept. Practially, we probably shouldn't and should save the $$ for the wedding. Mentally, we NEED the break. As much as we can't wait for the wedding, I don't know how relaxing it is going to be to spend 3-10 days with all of our closest friends and family. Fun? Yes! Relaxing? NO!!! So, we are going in Sept. to relax and and are going to try to tie in some wedding stuff (we're staying at the resort we're getting married in, so we want to meet with the onsite WC and stuff).

                I'd say if you can swing it, go!

                Good luck!!!
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                #8 Yari

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                  Posted 15 May 2008 - 05:58 PM

                  Honestly, I would be irritated at FI for not booking the flights earlier. Now, because he procastinated you are being punished.

                  #9 Angel

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                    Posted 15 May 2008 - 09:42 PM

                    If you can handle the prices of the flights then I say go for it. Flights are going to constantly increase. Everybody needs a break once in a while. I'm going on 3 myself before our wedding.
                    If he doesn't want to go and you personally can afford to purchase your ticket then I say you get some of your girls together and make it a girls trip.

                    #10 nikkianddean

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                      Posted 16 May 2008 - 12:29 AM

                      It doesn;t seem like there is a right ot wrong party like theother ladies said, but I do think that it would be a shame to lose money top change it. And you will both be so happy that you took that vacation!!!

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