| Originally Posted by ErinB |
One BM who is the Maid of Honor (I also have a Matron of Honor that I have had no problems with) is going. She put $1000 on a credit card and is supposedly going to pay us back the rest.
The other BM (cousin of MOH) still has not returned a phone call from myself or my mom! It's been nearly 3 weeks! So I told MOH that I had to talk to her ASAP to get this figured out. I told her that I wasn't mad (lie) but that I need an answer one way or another. If she doesn't go, she can still wear the dress to my AHR. If I am going to have to pay for someone to go, I'll be sure it is a member of MY family, one of my aunts, etc. who I know will appreciate it.
If I were you, I would call that BM (cousin of MOH) and leave a message telling her to return the BM dress to you. I would let her know that since she hasn't made any payments and since she's been avoiding your phone calls, you just assume she's not going so you got someone else to step in (since you had to pay for the trip anyway.) I would also say, "I can't believe you're willing to f*ck me over and ruin our friendship because you're not mature enough to just talk to me about whatever it is that's changed your mind about going." Since you still haven't actually spoken to her, you can play it like you have no idea why she isn't coming. Let her be the one to tell you it's about $$$. And if it were me, after she gave you a whole song and dance about not being able to go because of money, I would say "That's BS that it's about money, you've known the cost since March 2007. It MUST be something else." Make her feel stupid. Why should you be the only one stressed out.
(I'm sorry, I'm such a bitch, I know. But I just hate stupid, inconsiderate people.)