FI out of a job (long vent).

MissyR · May 6, 2008

I cannot say it enough that I know how you feel. I got the job I have now after articling (now three years later) and I cannot imagine being anywhere else.

If nothing else - it is a test of your relationship. FI lost his job last year and it took him 3 months to find something - did it suck? Absolutely! For both of us for different reasons. But it certainly made us realize that we can get through anything together ! Sniff sniff..

SunBride · May 6, 2008

Don't worry, you'll make it through this, your FH is very well educated and is sure to get a high paying job soon. It's not like you are living on welfare with no job prospects. But I know it must be hard to go from thinking you were going to be comfortable to now having to be very careful.

I have a similar story, but not in the field of law. My husband did a co-op program while in university and was pretty much guaranteed a job with that company when he graduated. He didn't even bother looking for a job elsewhere becuase he thought he for sure had a job there, and he loved the place and thought it would be the best job for him. Well 2 months before graduating the company was bought out by a U.S. company and did major layoffs, so they weren't able to hire him. He spent 3.5 months after graduating sitting at home depressed (in the crazy heat of an Ottawa summer without a/c!) and job hunting before finally having his first interview. It was with his 3rd choice of the probably 50 applications he had sent since job hunting, and he got the job. Well he still talks about how it's the best job he could have gotten, and laughs when he thinks that his co-op company was good, as this one is 10x better. So it all worked out for the best, even if he did have a rough 3.5 months of job searching.

here's my advice:

first, keep in mind that your FH will likely find work in a few months. Like I mention, he is well educated. If he has trouble finding work as a lawyer he could look elsewhere, such as working in business or the government.

Second, you may have to make some life changes temporarily to adjust. Maybe you'll need to move (could you sublet your place and find someplace cheaper?) and you may even have to delay your wedding. I think it's probably too drastic to do these things now, but it might be good to start thinking of the fact that it might eventually come to this point

Third, you may have to take out a loan / line of credit to help you get by until your FH finds a job. This is not the end of the world, again, he is well educated and will likely have a good paying job soon.

Sadly, it seems like this just wasn't mean to be, and I think think the chances are very good that he will find something better, even if it does take a couple months.

Sandra E. · May 6, 2008

I'm so sorry about this, I know it's hard right now but try to keep positive and send him positive thoughts and energy. Something will turn out.

Kishalee · May 9, 2008

I am so sorry to hear this. It must be very scary.

You never know whats coming down the pike for you guys. Who knows? A year from now you might both look back at this and think "that was the best thing that could have happened." I am sure that something better will come along. It almost always does.