FI out of a job (long vent).
Posted 05 May 2008 - 01:04 PM
Well, these past 10 months heâ€™s been working like a maniac, getting excellent performance reviews, even having some of the lawyers do that â€œnudge, nudge, wink, winkâ€ we would love to have you back in our practice section next year thingâ€¦so needless to say he was feeling relatively confident that things would work out and that he had done all he could to secure a position. The hireback rates are typically pretty good unless youâ€™ve actually screwed up something or slacked off through out the year. It was never a sure thing, but everyone, including his colleagues and some of the partners thought he was a shoe-in.
Well, on Friday they made the announcements and he was one of only three people not hired back. He was told he didnâ€™t â€œfitâ€ with the firmâ€™s culture and wasnâ€™t a good â€œmatchâ€. Not that he did bad work or didnâ€™t work hard enough (and apparently there were others who definitely put in less time and effort) â€“ just that he didnâ€™t fit. In other words â€“ they made up a BS answer. Because not matching and fitting is the precise opposite of what he had been told all along.
So heâ€™s out of a job. And I have no idea how he begins to go about finding a new one, and I am FREAKING OUT! We just signed on for our lease for another year in our apartment downtown, and we have the wedding coming upâ€¦my salary is hardly enough to support two people when we have student loans to pay and the wedding and rent thatâ€™s now beyond our pay scaleâ€¦I refuse to take financial help from his mother (thatâ€™s a whole other long story, but to sum it up â€“ itâ€™s NOT an option), and my parents are not in a position to offer much help. I know he will land on his feet eventually but I have no idea where he goes from here. I do know that it may take many, many months for it to finally come together and in the mean time, what do we do? My understanding is that firms hire their articling students and if your not hired back, wellâ€¦you S.O.L. And when he does find a job, will the salary be enough to cover the wedding/student loans/additional accumulated debt? Iâ€™m already looking into finding additional casual work on weekends (picking up contract work to make some extra money), but thereâ€™s only so much I can do.
Iâ€™m trying to control my anxiety in front of him but itâ€™s through the roof. I seem to be able to get a grip most of the time but when Iâ€™m alone I feel like I canâ€™t breath and I break down into tears. Iâ€™m scared but Iâ€™m also really angry for all the work he put in and all the time we spent apart this year so he could put in long working hours and itâ€™s come to nothing. Iâ€™m afraid that heâ€™ll have an impossible time finding a job, and overwhelmed with the financial demands of everything coming up. And the worst is that right now itâ€™s so hard to see him so upset too and thereâ€™s nothing I can do to make him feel better.
I want to talk to our friends about it but I know he'd be upset. He would hate for anyone to have sympathy or pity for him. So I give the standard -"Oh yes it'll all be fine", "When a door closes, somewhere a window opens" - responses to everyone who asks. But I just needed to write this all out because I didnâ€™t know how to make heads or tails of everything thatâ€™s happened. Itâ€™s like the carpet has been swept out from under my feet and Iâ€™m still shaking my head trying to reorient myself.
(RE. the quotes in the siggyâ€¦being a social worker, I have lots friends who are in the business of â€œprofessional problem solvingâ€ and â€œlife coachingâ€ â€“ theyâ€™ve been encouraging me to turn the whole thing on itâ€™s side, head, what have youâ€¦thatâ€™s whatâ€™s with the inspirational quotesâ€¦Iâ€™m hoping if I read and see them enough and repeat different ones in my head, Iâ€™ll find a silver lining in here somewhere sooner rather than later).
Posted 05 May 2008 - 01:10 PM
Posted 05 May 2008 - 01:35 PM
He's a lawyer? I know that here in the US, firms sometimes hire people temporarily to assist with discovery reviews and so forth. Maybe in the short run he could pursue something like that while he looks for a longer-term position?
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Posted 05 May 2008 - 01:43 PM
I was going to mention what Becks mentioned which is to do document review temporarily. Sometimes those temp jobs last for 10 to 12 months. Do they have stuff like that in Toronto?
Another option is to look through legal recruiting agencies. I'm not sure I understand all the logistics but does this mean that your FI has to do the articling (not sure I'm pronouncing that right) again at another firm before he can be hired? Or does the articling he did at this firm count towards a job somewhere else?
Additionally, just b/c your a lawyer doesn't mean you have to work in that capacity. Could he apply for a business job like in legal compliance at a corporation? A lot of people here also work for auto insurance companies as insurance adjusters. Maybe that's an option for him.
I am going to keep my fingers crossed that something comes his way. I imagine that you are super stressed but hopefully things will turn around for him and everything will work out.
Posted 05 May 2008 - 01:51 PM
Lots of law firms don't take on the article clerks usually down to cost and because a lot of the partners are arseholes (I know I'm a lawyer before anyone shouts at me lol)
He shouldn't have to do the articles again and i have known loads and i mean loads of newly qualified that have gone on to get amazing jobs shortly thereafter.
Its easy for me to say don't worry but if he has worked that hard for 10 months he will work equally hard to get a better job and it'll be for a much better firm.
Have faith it WILL work out xx
Posted 05 May 2008 - 02:13 PM
Try to remain posititve- negativity certianly doesn't help anything but make it worse! I'm sure your man will know what to do and it will all turn out ok.
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Posted 05 May 2008 - 03:04 PM
While in hindsight it was the best thing that ever happened to me - I know that at the time I was devasted and scared that there would be nothing else out there.
What type of law does he practice? If you PM me a little more information I may have some connections I can put him in contact with. The other option is to go to a few of the mentors at his firm that he has/had a good relationship with and see if they have any other contacts.
He should also check out the Ontario Reports (weekly journal with tons of jobs).
Posted 05 May 2008 - 03:41 PM
I know that it's true that we'll get through this -- the financial stuff can be trying but we'll work it out. Part of me has realized even more so over the last few days just how much I love him and how deeply proud of him I am. I know he has the resiliency to bounce back from this.
Missy - thank you so much for sharing with me about your articling/not being hired back. I've had that thought these past few days that maybe at some point he'll look back and realize this was the best thing to ever happen to him -- so I'm glad to hear it from someone first hand whose been through it! I'll PM you about the rest.
I keep telling myself better for this test to have come now than a few years down the road when might have a mortgage or a baby or other responsibilities. Right now it's the two of us and we can handle making some sacrifices and downsizing to accomodate this little bend in the road.
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