Vent: To invite or not to invite

[nikkianddean]

I have a sorority sister who I used to be very close with, but for various reasons we are not so close anymore. She planned to get married last summer and did not invite Dean becuase they were short on space (this was an acceptable reason since we all know the stress of wedding planning) -- but then she added that Dean and I were not married or engaged (only living together). She sent me a note and said that if one of our other sorority sisters' finaces/husbands could not make it then Dean would be welcome.

 

well, the wedding was cancelled. now it's my turn to send out invites. She is very secretive and I did not know her bf's last name (they are still together).

 

Hi T,

 

I hope you are doing well. I am sending out save the date info and I wanted

M's last name to include on the card. Thanks!

 

Nikki

 

HER REPSONSE:

 

Jeffrey

 

That was it. One word. What would you do

[jajajaja]

I was all ready to say not invite- after all the DW is the best way to weed out people.

 

However, after reading this I would invite her +guest if your budget can allow. Granted, she didn't do that for you at her wedding, but I also think it's somewhat hard for brides to expect people to come to a DW alone. That's much harder than a 4 hr wedding.

 

Just my 2 cents though.

 

EDIT- I meant to add, I would only continue to invite her since you already told her she was pretty much invited. Since she's invited, I would let her bring a guest.

[DreaW]

I agree with Rachel

[nikkianddean]

Her wedding was destination for me too. It was in Baltimore. At first she told me that accomodations for all out-of-towners would be paid for by her and her fiance. Then when the invites went out, she recinded.

 

It's hard to say...we were at another wedding together last summer (that I had to travel to DC for again) and she was so rude to me at that wedding.

 

I definitely hear what you guys are saying. Maybe I should have thougth abotu this and notinvited her int he first place

[lucy106]

Unfortunately I think because you already mentioned it to her you are stuck with inviting her. So with that said I too agree with Rachel. Sorry I would have loved to have said screw her!

[JennyK]

Now that you emailed her, she'll be expecting an invite.. I'd be the bigger person and invite her + 1. She'll probably not come anyways if she's acting this way towards you

[happygilmore]

My thoughts are along the lines as Rachel's. I say invite her plus 1 guest and from what you write my guess would be she'll decline but at least you get to look like the bigger person for extending the offer because she seems like she might be the type to gripe and b*tch if you didn't!

[Chiquita]

I probably wouldn't have invited her at all in the first place. BUT, since you've already said to her that you are inviting her and wanting to know her b/f's last name, I would send the invite for her and guest.

[Bride010101]

I have to agree with everyone. I would have considered NOT inviting her at all... but since you have sort of made contact I would invite both. As long as your budget allows, I feel singles w/ significant others should be allowed to bring them as a guest for a DW. (IMHO)

[Spazz]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chiquita I probably wouldn't have invited her at all in the first place. BUT, since you've already said to her that you are inviting her and wanting to know her b/f's last name, I would send the invite for her and guest.

I agree. Since you already emailed her, you should invite her.