I need to vent - I don't want to do this anymore

[Nrvsbride]

Celina I'm sorry that you feel stressed. I know a lot of people go through this especially as it gets closer since you really need to crunch numbers. But I promise that it will all be worth it in the end and you will be super happy.

[ErinB]

I feel the same way! Now that the wedding is almost here I'm kinda freaking out! I have paid for most of the wedding myself, probably about 50/50 with my mom, but I have done every bit of planning.

 

You really do just have to look forward to the wedding and what it means. This is not just any other day, it's your wedding day so it should be treated as something special.

 

I've passed on lots of dinners and outings, but I keep telling myself I'll see those people at the wedding.

 

Men in general, or so it seems, just don't get it. I don't even think it matters what "it" is! LOL

 

Hang in there!

[rodent]

I think the trick to not getting down is to make living cheap more fun. Plan some cheap social events so it's not like you are stuck not doing anything because you are saving. You friends might be relieved to save some money & not need to go out that night too.

 

Instead of a group dinner out we'll do stuff like make a big batch of pizza crust & all make our own pizzas. Then BYOB & you have a cheap, fun party. We do board games instead of movies. We workout together, go for hikes, go to the gardens...I'm sure there are more. But, it's very possible to live cheap & still have a lot of fun. Today was a friends b-day. she is really trying to save so her & her husband can start a business. So instead of going out to dinner tonight, we met for lunch. We all brought our lunches from home & sat outside in the nice weather. it was much more fun than dinner at a restaurant.

 

The trick to being happy & living cheap is to be creative about it so you don't feel like you are sacrificing anything. Atleast that is what works for me.

[Jen_S]

Hang in there it will be worth it!

[Hartyt509]

I feel exactly the same ! just gotta hold it in for a little longer then you'll realise how worth it it was

[Celina]

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Originally Posted by LC_Rachel This time was so hard for me too! We really cut out a lot of things we did during the savings period (movies, dinner, trips, etc) and DH was not having it. He was so pouty about me cutting back the spending and I was so pissed he didn't get it. We would fight over the budget constantly. In the end, it's totally worth it. Focus on the good stuff. It should help you get out of this slump and get excited about the wedding and trip. As for your MOH, I think honesty is always the best policy. IF you can't afford it, you can't afford it. She should understand. Also understand if she can't afford it either and ends up not going. It will get better!

My FI is JUST LIKE YOU! I spoke to one of my BM's and she said she would give me the gift of $200 to help out my MOH. I can't find it in me to take her up on her offer. I have to really think the MOH problem out. She is the only one of all of my friends and family that I want there; that's why this is so hard for me.

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Originally Posted by lucy106 Celina, I am so sorry to read my date and time twin is going through a rough time! ........If you are feeling bummed maybe look at pics of your resort or other things you already have to remind you of your goal. You could even put those pics up around the house too!

I am SO going to do this! I already have a pic of our view from our room in PV on my desktop background. I have this HUGE calendar of beach scenes. More pics! Gotcha!

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Originally Posted by JamaicaBride062108 I feel the same way! Now that the wedding is almost here I'm kinda freaking out! I have paid for most of the wedding myself, probably about 50/50 with my mom, but I have done every bit of planning. You really do just have to look forward to the wedding and what it means. This is not just any other day, it's your wedding day so it should be treated as something special.

You are right - it is something special and should be treated as such. I am going to keep your quote handy (next to all of my pics posted around the house) as a reminder.