Bachlorette party!

[hollisandsteph]

This coming weekend my friends back home are hosting my bachlorette party. Neither of my good friends are able to make it to Jamaica for my wedding and my only BM is the wife of my FI's best friend who lives in the same town as us. She and I have become very good friends over the last few months with all the planning. I felt kinda guily when my long time friends wanted to host the bachlorette party since that is sorta the MOH traditional job so I thought the least I should do was make sure my new friend was given the oppertunity to go. So her and her husband are heading out for the weekend with us. I was really looking forward to it until the last couple of days ago. It turns out her and her husband are completly jealous people. I knew they sorta were but not to what extent. They are putting restriction on where each other are allowed to go/do. I find it very very rude that they would do this to me and my FI. The guys are planning a marathon golf outing starting at 7am. Us girls are not heading out until 6pm. She has had the nerve to tell her husband that they need to be back to my parents by 3 or 4 so they can hang out for a bit before she goes out. He is not even driving or have any controll overe where they are going..lol He has said she needs to call him every time we go somewhere new. I just think that takes a lot of nerve! I don't want to spend the day waiting for her to get off the phone and my FI doesn't want to be interupted every 20 minutes while they are all out golfing (both happens all the time). I guess I kinda see it as it is one day out of thier lives. They have been married for 12 years and have the rest of thier lives to spend time together. Can't they just loosen the strings for one day I am not sure how to even approach this without pissing them off and making things tense this weekend or in Jamaica. My FI said we need to tell them both the need to leave thier cell phones at home...lol

Any advise on how to handle this situation

Also look at my ticker!!!! 24 days to go...whooohoooo. Not months now..days! LOL

[jajajaja]

Oh that's a tricky situation. So let me get this straight- just your FI and his buddy are going golfing and just you and your MOH are going out to the bars?

 

I would probably just jokingly say when the four of you are together that no cell phones are allowed. If they throw a fit, I wouldn't push it. Unless it's important to you. I just don't see it as something to let ruin your day. If they want to be controlling of each other, I guess you can't really stop them. I think it's more their loss than yours.

 

If she is disruptive to your plans (like calling every 20 mins, worrying more about her husband than what the two of you are doing), I'd just nicely call her attention to it. She is your friend after all. Just be honest. Remind her you want to enjoy your time together and the constant worry about what the boys are doing is putting a damper on it.

[Kat81]

I agree! You can always wait until the big group of you are together and say jokingly ok boys and girls today is about the boys being with the boys and the girls being with the girls. Leave your cell phones at home and lets go party.

[Cole5worm]

I hate people like this.. I have a friend that hates strip clubs and doesn't want her Hubby to go but my FI wants to do teh traditional thing.. he doesn't liek the bed dances or anything.. just sitting by the stage.. (wow it sounds like he does this a lot.. but really never goes.. just on bach things.) anyways.. her hubby said were going and told her it will probably be the last time.. (my FI is the last guy of the group getting married so no more excueses)

 

I think it is very rude of your friends to do this.. these things are you special things.. maybe ask her how her Bachelorette party was and see if they had to wait on other peopel...

 

I really hope they don't ruin your fun!!!

[DanielleNDerek]

They've been married for 12 yrs and act like this, really?!! That's crazy. I mean i'm not a fan of crazy bachelor parties, but I would never have fi call me so i can okay his every move.

 

I would do like rachel suggested, casually bring it up to them as a joke that they need to leave their cells at home. If they throw a fit over it, i would just drop it. Don't let it ruin your time.

[hollisandsteph]

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Originally Posted by Kat81 I agree! You can always wait until the big group of you are together and say jokingly ok boys and girls today is about the boys being with the boys and the girls being with the girls. Leave your cell phones at home and lets go party.

I think I am gonna nicely inforce the no boys allowed policy..lol. Thanks for the idea! My FI has already firmly stated that she would not be calling every 10 minutes.

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Originally Posted by DanielleNDerek They've been married for 12 yrs and act like this, really?!! That's crazy. I mean i'm not a fan of crazy bachelor parties, but I would never have fi call me so i can okay his every move.

I agree that after being married 12 years what do they think is honestly going to happen? I asked her this and she said it was cause she was cheeted on in the past and that is why she is this way. It was in highschool. She started dating her husband her senior year and was married the September after they graduated. My FI says her husband would NEVER cheat on her. I think he is afraid too. She would beat him down..lol
We are not having crazy bachelor/bachelorette parties. They are just just friends getting together having a good time. Neither of us are wild and crazy people and they both should know they have NOTHING to worry about. My FI doesn't even want to do the strip club thing. Even if he did I could care less. I trust him 100% and feel very lucky that we will have a marriage based on that!!

[Kat81]

Maybe she will have such a great time she won't even think about him

[hollisandsteph]

You know that is really my goal. I really really want her to have a good time and everyone else to too but I guess I need to concentrate on myself. Not to sound selfish but I have not gotten to go home as much as I used to cause the price of gas along with all the prewedding stuff. I am just going to try to not dwell on it. If she is not having a good time than it is her lose I guess. I don't need to make it mine.

[Kat81]

That is not selfish at all. It is her job to make sure you are having a good time... Not your job to make sure she is having a good time! lol