Cost for Guests
Posted 30 January 2007 - 07:57 PM
All the while my finace's family is totally on board and in support of it. In order to shut her up, we offered to pay my mom's way. And I told her that the wedding "is not all about her", but all she can do is complain. Not only is she complaining about taking care of my Grandma, she is complaining about the dumbest stuff like hard beds! This would be a great trip for my Grandma. She has never been anywhere like this and would have a good time. My mom would need to do a certain amount of babysitting for my Grandma, because she is old. But that seems like the least she can do! I mean, my Grandma is a wonderful lady and one day she will be dead and not able to come to Mexico! I think my mom is being selfish and should stop complaining. Is anyone else experiencing anything like this?
Posted 30 January 2007 - 08:22 PM
Posted 30 January 2007 - 08:43 PM
I'm in California and all of my family and friends I grew up with are all in WI. One of my great friends was told yesterday the wedding is in Cabo and she told her sister who says "Aw, Crap, do we have to go."... I didn't say anything, but all I thought was, you'd have to make a trip to CA regardless if you wanted to attend and we aren't "making" anyone go.
I completely understand if some people can't make it, but I also know we're going to have a great time with the people we do.
Maybe if you gave them 4 years notice, they might be able to make it. Yeah Right!
Posted 30 January 2007 - 09:26 PM
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Posted 30 January 2007 - 09:29 PM
It really sucks that families are not supportive from the beginning. Is that too much to ask?
Posted 30 January 2007 - 09:45 PM
Posted 30 January 2007 - 10:00 PM
As for people compaining - well we've all bee there. I realize that even if we weren't having a DW people woould be complaining anyway. And I think a lot of us got some resistance from parents as well. Remember that sometimes "new" things scare people. I know it sounds silly but your mom (without even knowing it) might just be scared about you a) getting married in a foreign country.
Luckily you've given her MORE than enough time to adjust to the plan. My parents were a PITA at first and now I think they're excited! And the truth of the matter is that Natalie is totally right - this is about YOU and your FI! Also I'm sure people will stop giving you such a hard time once they adjust to the idea. When people say rude or negative things I simply tell them (nicely), "We'd love to have you there but if you can't come than we totally understand." I think when you say this suddenly they may realize that they don't HAVE to come - but you'd love to have them there IF they want to be there.
I even have people complaining about the price of the hotel... ummmm I gave people about 100 different options for places where they can stay for way less! So the bottom line is that people are stupid and they love to complain. people also are very selfish and honestly don't think about anyone but themselves.
P.S. is there anyone who can help your mom with your grandma?
Posted 30 January 2007 - 10:10 PM
Posted 30 January 2007 - 10:10 PM
Posted 30 January 2007 - 10:16 PM
| Originally Posted by gkashmira |
And I think a lot of us got some resistance from parents as well. Remember that sometimes "new" things scare people. I know it sounds silly but your mom (without even knowing it) might just be scared about you a) getting married in a foreign country.
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