Breathe Sarah Breathe!

[Spazz]

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Originally Posted by lucky k72 OK! This has nothing to do with candy bars, coffee bars, etc. This is about power and power struggles. I have seen this time and time again. Everybody is sweet and then weddings just do something wacky to families. She's trying to show you who the alpha female in her family. If it wasn't a candy bar it would be something else. Like the girls said let FI handle this. And I say you should now go to the bar!!!

Karen, I agree completely!

[Jenn3878]

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Originally Posted by Saraha OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOOK AT THIS EMAIL I JUST GOT! I just think it's going to be too costly and not a necessary expense. Between Picazzo's, the tables/chairs, centerpieces, cake, bartender, DJ, Pam, evap coolers, decorations etc. etc. we are over $5,000. We really need to stop spending. I think it will be as wonderful a party without a candy buffet. So my vote is NO for the candy buffet.

WOW what a B!! I hope you stick to your guns and have yourselves a nice candy buffet!!

[jajajaja]

All this talk of bars and alcohol, did you ever post bach party pics Sarah?

[Saraha]

lol no thats the plan when I get home! There some good ones on there! I have been meaning to but have been busy with my delicious candy bar ;o)

[jajajaja]

Well let's stop talking about candy and move onto banana hammocks. jeesh!

[~Melissa~]

awww sorry you're dealing with this sarah. I hope she loosens up on you. Don't stress, Kevin will fix it

[Saraha]

AHHHH Kevins on the phone with his mom right now.... Im skird!

[Yari]

I hope everything turns out okay. This whole situation blows!

[Celina]

Wow - this is totally a power struggle. Hopefully Kevin will talk some sense into her.

[Saraha]

Ok we will just say things are not good right now.

 

Im sitting her crying like a frekaing baby having a nervous break down!!!!

 

So the chain of events that happened in the last hour:

 

Kevin called his mom who didnt answer so called his dad because knew that he was upset about something also.... basically things didnt end well and they hung up the phone with eachother. I guess his dad said that we have been spending way too much money and are getting carried away with everything. I guess Kevin fired back a couple things saying we are going a cheap as we could possibly go and it shouldnt matter to them because WE PAY for anything over the 5k. (which I have reminded to tell them to tell me once we have hit that mark so we can pay the rest). Kevin said why now are you telling us that a $25 candy stand is an issue anyways. Kevin said that his mom blew it way out of porportion and his father replied saying "well its mutual" ---- saying IM blowing it out of proportion. Thats about alll Kevin told me until he hung up. THEN they he brings up there there is too many people and that we have to "uninvite" people. WTF!!!! I told Kevin this AHR will be cancelled if we have to tell someone is uninvited.... and they thought the candy stand was tacky! Kevin said that if this was the issue than it should have been brought up BEFORE invites were sent out!!!

 

So then Kevin calls me I break down and tell him were not having the wedding and on and on..........

 

Kevin calls his mom and says that if you dont feel comfortable with us having the wedding we need to know now. It is in seven weeks. He said I was really upset about everything. Well I guess she said, well if she so upset about the candy then she can have the candy!

So he told her its FAR beyond the candy issue and she told him she had to let him go

 

So then Kevin calls me again and tells me what happened but then has to go (I know perfect timing) because hes a coach and the baseball game was starting.

 

SO then Kevins mom calls me, and tells me not to cry everything will be fine. At this point I didnt give a F what was going on and she says Im sorry about the candy buffet I really didnt think it would be an issue. I told her its soooo much more then the stupid candy now, its everything.... if you dont want/feel comfortable to have the reception than we wont have it... so she says "no you are having it here, you have to theres no where else"

 

I mean come on thats not a way to calm someone down and make them feel better... not able to do it anywere else

 

So then Kevin called me right now right before his game and he told me after the game was over that he was going to call and speak with his parents and say, there is obviously an issue with us having the wedding here. Otherwise this would not have been brought up AGAIN (mind you this happened about three weeks ago where his mom flipped out with the number of people and said we should start looking for somewhere to have the wedding). And that we will either look at just cancelling it in general or somewhere else.

 

 

So things are just dandy right now