How to uninvite a BM
Posted 22 January 2007 - 07:05 PM
for what it's worth here's my advice.....leave talking to her as long as you can Then when you do have to tell her, totally blame it all on your FI! It's what I would do....of course he is gonna be pissed at her for what she did so she should buy it! It's the perfect excuse! That way you don't have to insult her by saying that you don't want her to be your BM coz she is a shitty friend!! LOL! She'll probably feel so guilty again for what she did that she wont even question it! You get away looking good, your FI wont even know whats going on, everyones happy!! LOL!
Posted 22 January 2007 - 07:17 PM
Posted 22 January 2007 - 07:23 PM
BM problems are so not fun. I nearly had to de-BM one but luckily she did it to herself!
If I were you, I would wait until you have to talk to her at that wedding, tell her at that time that you are unhappy about the lie she told about your FI and not even bring up the BM thing. Chances are after you tell her you are not happy with her, she will bring it up herself. These things have an amazing way of resolving themselves given enough time. So then regarding the website you could ask your FI if he wouldn't mind putting something on that page that says "coming soon" until you can resolve it and then email a reminder to all your guests when it has been updated. That page takes the longest out of all of them anyway!!
January 13, 2007
Posted 22 January 2007 - 07:24 PM
Posted 22 January 2007 - 07:54 PM
Posted 22 January 2007 - 08:13 PM
| Originally Posted by REBECCA |
I agree with the other girls. Blame the FI. I definitely wouldn't keep her in the wedding in lieu of hurting her feelings. In fact, after the stunt she pulled it is probably better to not have her in your life anyway. Seems like she likes drama and planning a wedding stirs up enough of it on it's own!
That's a really shitty thing to do, and I'm sure she's probably expecting to get ousted... and hse deserves a good a**kicking for that too!~!
Posted 22 January 2007 - 10:08 PM
I also have a "friend" who asked me if I was going to have BMs 'cause she wanted to be one..
so I told her no, my sister is going to be the only BM, (in fact I'll have 8 BMs hahaha)... I also told her I didn't want her or my other friends dealing with the trouble of finding a dress.. etc.. and since it's not a traditional wedding she understood..
so when she notices everyone is going to be a BM except her I'm going to blame it on my friends (they agreed).. I'll tell her I knew nothing about it and they just decided to surprise me.. and then it'll be too late for her to join them..
I wanted to post pictures of my BMs on my webpage too but I decided not to do it because of that..
Hope it helps...
Posted 22 January 2007 - 10:21 PM
#1 I hate this girl already. Who does that?
#2 I think you should tell her that bc you are having a DW you are "resetting" the bridal party. Then ask who you want to ask and leave her out.
#3 If she says ANYTHING about why she's not in it say "it probably has to do with the fact you like to lie about the groom. real friends don't do that."
Posted 23 January 2007 - 11:25 AM
otherwise, what Kate said is really great too...I would personally not tell her this at the other wedding, because if she can lie like that about your FI what kind of scene is she going to make, and you wouldn't want to ruin your other friends day with drama. You also might want to give your other friend a heads up so you don't wind up sitting at the same table as this girl at the wedding. That would be really weird.
Posted 23 January 2007 - 06:12 PM
i think it is BS that she told people and her bf your fiance hit on her. i don't care what her reason is!
that in itself is a reason to fire her as a BM and put her on probabtion as a friend.
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