feeling down

[MrsPetti2Be]

Hi Girls,

 

Just needed to share my feelings with someone. I have been sad for the last few days and figure if I get them out it might help. I found out Thursday night that one of my girlfreind's (and bridesmaid) father died thursday morning. It was such a shock and I have just felt horrible since then.

 

Although he was not in my family it is still bringing me down. Anyone have any tips on how to deal with it?

 

Lisa

[dragonfly]

I am sorry for your loss, there is no sure way to get through grief, it is different for everyone. Just be there for your friend, no matter how old you are losing a parent is devastating.

[vale]

Allow yourself to be down for a while, losing anyone you know is hard and as dragonfly said, just be there for your friend. So sorry.

[MrsPetti2Be]

thanks for the support!!

[StephanieMN]

I am sorry to hear you are sad. Sometimes you just have to work through the sadness and other times you just have to go out and have fun. Not really sure which one will work for you right now. HUGS.

[alex]

My advice for getting over a loss is to let yourself feel what you need to feel. If you remember a happy or funny memory... then have a good laugh & smile! If you feel down about it, then let yourself have a good cry!

 

Just don't keep any of your emotions bottled up because in my experience you'll only feel worse!

 

*big hug*

[Christine]

I agree with the other girls, feel the pain and the loss and try to remember the happy memories.

[becks]

The advice you've gotten is right - you need to just let it happen.

 

If it's interfering with things, find ways to distract yourself - go play with a friend's new puppy, get involved in one of your wedding DIYs, or whatever, but your emotions will have to run their course. Eventually, you'll be back to your old self.

[Sandra E.]

Just remember, it's ok to be sad and it's ok to feel down.

[Jackie]

Its so hard to see a close friend go through a loss like that. It also brings to mind that lives are truly precious and our loved ones are not going to be around forever either. When my father died I couldnt be alone. I didnt realize it at the time but I just kept busy busy busy for about a month or two always surrounding myself with people so that I wouldnt be able to really sit down and deal with my fealings. When I finally was alone I think I cried uncontrollably for a good few hours. Your friend really needs you right now weather she even notices it or not. Even if she seems fine make sure you keep in contact even more often then normal, even if its to chit-chat about everything but her loosing her dad.

I hope you feel better soon.