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#11 MissyR

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    Posted 04 April 2008 - 11:02 PM

    Denise I feel for you - I know this is a really scary time. My mom went through the same thing in 2006. They found a lump, she had to go back for tons of tests - and then wait for 1 week. The wait was excruciating. The ended up going in and removing some of the tissue and it wasn't cancer.... honestly we are all thinking positive thoughts for you now. Keep yourself busy - you can always use us on the forum to help you keep your mind off of things!

    #12 Denise40

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      Posted 05 April 2008 - 02:31 AM

      Again thanks for the kind words and encouragements. It makes me feel better knowing that are still such kind and warm hearted people around.

      #13 BarefootBride

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        Posted 05 April 2008 - 06:34 AM

        Denise - Please think positively! I am so serious. I have been through negative paps, blood work - you name it! Sometimes, its nothing after a second or third test. And science and technology is so advanced now that if it is something, its probably treatable. You have such a supportive hubby.

        #14 shellb

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          Posted 05 April 2008 - 06:58 AM

          Denise, stay positive, try not to worry too much until you have had a chance to sit down with your doctor(s) to discuss. You were being proactive in the first place to actually go for your check ups. You've got a running start which most people do not because they choose to ignore rather than know. Your doctors are being proactive too by sending you for an ultrasound. An ultrasound will give them a better look at the tissue for things like size and density if there is a lump.

          I am 34 and for the past two years, I have been getting mammograms and ultrasounds every 6 months or so for some suspicious tissue. They have even done a core biopsy which did come back negative. It turns out that it is what they call a fibroadenoma. Even though it is not cancer, I have made the decision that I want it out rather than stressing (much like you are doing now). A lot of women find out they have just dense tissue like others have said before me.

          My best advice, is to make sure you keep the lines of communication open with your husband. Don't go the course alone, you are partners. In my case, only my FI and one friend knows know because at the time it all started my Gram was in the last stages of cancer and my Mom was having such a hard time with it. We actually all were. I made the decision that once I knew what I was dealing with I'd tell her rather than add to her or my families stress. Having my FI to support me through it made the world of difference. And BTW, it is OK to cry believe me I did enough of it and then I made up my mind to fight regardless of what it was. You are going to be OK.

          #15 Helen_S81

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            Posted 05 April 2008 - 07:21 AM

            Denise, it is really important that you try to stay positive. Enjoy some retail therapy today. Keep us up to date with what is going in if you can.

            #16 becks



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              Posted 05 April 2008 - 07:55 AM

              Oh, Denise! I'm so sorry you're going thru this! I'm crossing my fingers and hoping that it's just one of those situations others have mentioned. The doctors don't have a baseline to work with for you, so they are probably just being ultra cautious.

              Keep positive thoughts, do what it takes to distract yourself. Come and vent, share your fears or whatever. We're here for you, and you are in our prayers and thoughts.

              Big hugs!!

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              #17 twinkletoes

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                Posted 05 April 2008 - 09:43 AM

                You have defitenly come to the right place to vent. These are some of the most supportive people I have 'met' in my life! So anytime you need to vent, regardless if it is wedding related or not, everyone will be more than willing to let you do so.

                Hang in there and let us know how the results turn out. My heart is with you and your fam during this rough time
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                #18 Sarah


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                  Posted 05 April 2008 - 09:55 AM

                  Oh wow Denise. That's so much to take in right now. I know this is incredibly scary right now, but you have a supportive family and friends (and that includes us!) to help you get through this, no matter the outcome. I can't imagine what you're feeling right now, but I just want you to know that we're here for you. We're a great sounding board and are always here to give you a pick-me-up if you need it. You will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers- I pray that they just need to investigate further to rule things out and will find nothing serious. I have many friends that are breast cancer survivors and are incredibly strong women. No matter what happens you WILL get through it...

                  Hang in there, keep us posted, go to your dress fitting and feel beautiful while you prepare to pledge yourself again to the love of your life :)

                  #19 Kat81

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                    Posted 05 April 2008 - 10:43 AM

                    Denise, just stay positve. Doctors have to tell you if there is something abnormal. But abnormal doesn't mean anything bad. And even IF you do have to get your breasts removed, technology has come pretty far in that dept. A couple grand and you will have a knock out new pair Just remember we are all here for you no matter what. Good luck! I will keep you in my prayers.

                    #20 Martha

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                      Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:51 AM

                      Denise, I am so sorry to hear this. Like everyone else has said...hopefully the tests come back clear. I am glad you have the support of your husband and daughter. Your husband has loved you for at least 25 years and is taking the pledge of many, many more years together! He will stand by you know matter what happens! You have to believe that.

                      For now, enjoy shopping for your shoes and focus on your vow renewal!

                      Please keep us posted! I will keep you in my prayers!

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