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#11 MsShelley

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    Posted 01 April 2008 - 06:46 AM

    I can't believe you leave in 2 weeks, Tami

    I agree, have a glass of wine and take a deep breath, you will get everything done, this is what you have worked so hard for!

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    Posted 01 April 2008 - 08:35 AM

    Hi Tami - I vote for a glass of wine. And, as much as I know you don't want to do it. Take a day off - no wedding anything. No planning, no DIYing, just leave it. You'll feel better.

    And in the meantime, what can I do to help? I'm good with the hang tag thing - and I've got lots of card stock, a great color laser printer and Fedex is just downstairs. I'd be happy to put them together for you if you want to point me in the right direction. I even have a 2" circle punch if you want round ones!

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    #13 Sandra E.

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      Posted 01 April 2008 - 08:40 AM

      Hang in there, I felt the same way before I was getting ready to leave. My friends told me "You will not eat or sleep until it's all over" boy they were right. Everything will come together and you're fiance will see how well you've done after the wedding. Hang in there - you're almost there!

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        Posted 01 April 2008 - 08:47 AM

        Is there anything we can do for you, Tami? I am not that creative, but I am persistant. I have 6 weeks till my wedding and I am kinda freaking out as well, so I can totally understand were you are coming from. Whatever you need, we are here for you! Put us b*tches to work!

        #15 lscilley

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          Posted 01 April 2008 - 09:00 AM

          Well I hope over the next 2 weeks your stress levels go down so you can enjoy the fact that your getting married soon!

          #16 ACDCDCAC

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          Posted 01 April 2008 - 09:11 AM

          Quote:
          Originally Posted by foxytv
          He just doesn't seem to understand that while I haven't been able to contribute much monetarily, that I have SAVED us a ton of money -- and have been working my a$$ off to get things done, especially the DIY stuff. Don't get me wrong, he does know I have put a lot of time and effort into it ... but I just seem to think that counts for something. It's easier to write checks when you have the money than to do actual work to make a DW happen, IMHO.
          tami i know all about this part, believe me! i am in your same spot. doug is the main breadwinner at our house, and when i work OT to save up money to help, my doubletime hours still dont add up to his regular pay! so he has been working all the OT to pay for stuff, but i've been doing all the work.
          Thanks for letting me vent...
          vent away! you know we love to listen! your wedding is going to be so amazing, just try to focus on the reason you're doing all this, the love you two have for each other! and BREATHE!!

          #17 jmill130

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            Posted 01 April 2008 - 09:15 AM

            Wine and friends will help! Finish strong... just 2 more weeks! You CAN do it and everyhing will turn out perfect!

            #18 ErinB

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              Posted 01 April 2008 - 09:22 AM

              Tami, I think we have all been/are/will be there right along with you! It's just part of the wedding planning process.

              If I hear, " I don't care, it's your day" one more time I'm going to smack that boy in the face.

              I also get the money worries. We don't have a lot so all of my savings is going to the wedding and all that he has and our joint savings are going towards buying a house. That makes it all the more difficult when he criticizes something. It's my money and my day, damnit!

              I've got a little over 2 months and I'm really feeling the stress and starting to take it out on everyone around me. I hate being so snappy all the time!

              But, on a side note, if anyone needs an angry letter written, I'm probably your girl.

              Just breathe, drink a glass (bottle) of wine. In 18 more days you'll be walking down the aisle in a tropical paradise and it will all have been worth it!

              #19 Spazz

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                Posted 01 April 2008 - 09:27 AM

                Tami, you're almost there. I know I'll probably be in your shoes in a few weeks, so I can't tell you to relax because I know I'll be feeling the same way. But seriously let us know what we can do to help. And just keep picturing laying on the beach with Tom in 2 weeks!

                #20 foxytv

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                  Posted 02 April 2008 - 08:36 PM

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                  Originally Posted by starchild
                  Aww Tami, that stinks!! You have a great attitude and you are certainly entitled to stress because it is crunch time. And you're right, you'll be on the beach chillin with Tom soon and none of this will matter.

                  But...if we can help with the odds and ends you know we will. You mentioned you still need to get some music? I have something like 3000 audio files in my playlist so maybe I have a song you need.

                  Also, I Limewire like it's nobody's business so if you tell me the titles you need I can get them and send them to you. You have my email or just PM me if you can use a hand :)
                  Thanks Jamy! I have a lot already downloaded but still have to organize it and burn it onto CD's. And we are going to a friends house on Sunday -- he has a bunch of 60's/70's rock/shag/etc music that we are going to add in, and then I think we'll have it covered. I've already "borrowed" plenty of your song selections and those of others from the song list thread. I do need some extra up-to-date dance songs if you can suggest any.

                  Quote:
                  Originally Posted by becks
                  Hi Tami - I vote for a glass of wine. And, as much as I know you don't want to do it. Take a day off - no wedding anything. No planning, no DIYing, just leave it. You'll feel better.

                  And in the meantime, what can I do to help? I'm good with the hang tag thing - and I've got lots of card stock, a great color laser printer and Fedex is just downstairs. I'd be happy to put them together for you if you want to point me in the right direction. I even have a 2" circle punch if you want round ones!
                  You are awesome! I have the hang tags for my OOT bags done ... but I want to make some hang tags to add to the fans that have a description of the starfish symbolism. I'm also going to add a tag to each pashmina for the ladies w/ a definition of what a pashmina is. I think (hope) I can get them done and cut and then Mom and I will assemble once we get to the DR.

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                  You ladies are truly unbelieveable! I have sait it time and time again -- and I'll say it yet again ... I really don't know how this DW would have come together without BDW and all of your help/support/guidance/etc.

                  Last night ... I got done with work late -- like 9pm ... but I met Tom out at our bar and drank some (more) wine (lol, I had been 'tasting' all day at work with customers). He asked if I needed to get home b/c he knew I was stressed and as you ladies suggested ... I said that no, I was not going to think about wedding stuff that night. So we had a good time and after a few extra cocktails I told him about just how bleak my financial end of things are and that that was at the core of a lot of my stress. I think he finally got it b/c he told me not to worry about it - just to get done the DIY stuff that I want to get done but not to stress anymore over things. So, hopefully he stays true to his word and doesn't freak when we get the bill after the reception. lol.

                  Anyway -- so we went and applied for our marriage license yesterday morning as well ... and he picked it up today!! (we're having the notary sign the paperwork with us Sunday, April 13). So he is all excited and wants me to meet him out again tonight. Geez! :-) I was supposed to go to the gym tonight but got done w/ work too late so I cancelled my training appt and am plugging away at this DIY stuff instead ... and will have to tell him no-go on the brewskies for tonight. lol

                  My flowers from Angel arrived today too .. so one more thing not to worry about -- although it's BIG box to figure out how to transport!!

                  I am bummed that I have only had time to get to the gym about 4 times in March ...and feel like all of my hard work there since January isn't going to show at this rate ... but I am going to get there this weekend and next weekend and hopefully at least a few weeknights, but my work schedule is packed tight. I guess I am going to have to try getting up at 5am and going before work. ugh.

                  Anyway -- thanks for letting me vent again -- and thanks for the support and feedback. I feel much better about things now -- especially after Tom and I talked. :-)




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