I am sooooo PISSED!

[Dbld78]

Yeah, I'm usually the same, I try not to let these things bother me but this really does burn me up! I mentioned once that she should do what Tim and I are doing and go away and get married and she responds with...."I could never do something like that". I can't figure out if she's doing this because she's jealous or she's doing it because she's just plain out SELFISH, we have been friends for 18 years! My mom does not want us to go at all....

 

Tim has a friend who got engaged after us and they are having their wedding 2 weekends before so they can incorporate our wedding into their honeymoon and that didn't make me mad at all I actually thought that was really cute and I'm glad that they care so much to do that! But this is different! Tim and I have been together for 10 years and if I had my way we would have been married YEARS ago, sometimes you don't always get what you want. If she wants October so bad what's wrong with waiting another year...to which her response was.."I really don't want a long engagement". Well then wait until November, everything will be cheaper and you'll be able to better picks of vendors... I really try to be the bigger person always and really pride myself on doing so....but this one is testing me.

 

Oh yeah about the images......OH SHIT! I had planned a little shindig group Boudoir photoshoot for friends and shopped it around to all my girlfriends and I had attached some images of sessions that I had already done and apparently....."that's not my style" she says, well excuse me.....I wasn't sure how I should take that either, wasn't sure if she was trying to say they were trashy.....trust me they WEREN'T.

 

What should I say to her? I don't want to blow up but I'm affraid I might lose it!

[Dbld78]

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Originally Posted by sunnydaes It sounds to me like she is jealous of you. But actually what she is doing is shooting herself in the foot. You have had this wedding planned and everyone has seen the save the dates etc. so really if people are struggling financially, they are going to go to one wedding and it would be the one that invited them first, which is yours. I would be mad, absolutley. can you say something to her? On second thought, thats probably what she wants from you...a reaction. So don't react, and don't worry because you have all your ducks in a row. She won't ruin anything or steal any thunder as long as you don't let her. and for her, well Karma can be s***ty.

I can say something absolutely....she's affraid of me! I'm well known for speaking my mind! I just don't want to say anything that might hurt her feelings....even though she's hurting mine!

[Yari]

I would meet her for lunch or something and tell her how much this is hurting you. Be honest, but prepared...this might be the end of your friendship with her.

[Kryztan]

All I have to say....Some people SUCK!

[Spazz]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. You have every right to be pissed off. I think you need to say something to her, there is no reason she needs to get married this October and there is NO reason she should ever dis your work. To say the least, she doesn't sound like a good friend.

[rodent]

Is this a friendship you want to continue? I know you've been friends a long time, but if she is a toxic friend maybe it's best to part ways. We don't know the whole relationship of course, but the stuff she is doing sounds bad. I have had my share of negative friends & life is so much better being surrounded by friends that bring out the best in you.

[Dbld78]

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Originally Posted by Morgan Is this a friendship you want to continue? I know you've been friends a long time, but if she is a toxic friend maybe it's best to part ways. We don't know the whole relationship of course, but the stuff she is doing sounds bad. I have had my share of negative friends & life is so much better being surrounded by friends that bring out the best in you.

Exactly! That's how I feel, just because we've been friends for 18 years doesn't mean that we haven't grown apart. I am in the process of "weeding" so to speak that's why I didn't ask her to be in my wedding party. I really wanted it to be people who were close to both of us and cared about us. Of course I would be sad for a time to not have her as a friend but in realitly we haven't been close in a long time. So I guess that's what was going to happen anyway.

I just talked to my mom about it and she's pissed too. It really just means that she had absolutely no intention on making an effort to try to make it to our wedding....and that sucks just as much!

C'est la vie.....

Yari, I think I am going to ask her to lunch....I would much rather have this conversation face to face honestly.

Girls thanks so much for all your advice and support! You guys are AWESOME!

[Dbld78]

Oh SHIT! I just reread the email......she also asked me to do engagement pictures too..........seriously............................ ...........WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!!

 

Some people have some serious NEVERE!

[Agape Gems]

There is definitely an unspoken rule when it comes to setting wedding dates and considering what other plans are already in place, so you have every right to be upset. I think she is being really selfish and is not acting like a "friend" at all. Whatever you do don't tell her about BDW! LOL

 

I also think avoidance=guilt, so she know's how wrong she is and just doesn't want to admit it.

[rodent]

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Originally Posted by Dbld78 Oh SHIT! I just reread the email......she also asked me to do engagement pictures too..........seriously............................ ...........WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!! Some people have some serious NEVERE!

She wants you to take her engagement pictures?