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Bachelorette Party Issue - Help!!!

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So FI and I were orginally going to have separate outings (ie Me and the girls down to FL and he and the guys out to Vegas).

 

Well one of my BMs really really wants to go out to Vegas so I convinced my MOH that this would be better and she is on board.

 

We are all going out the same weekend (MLK 2009) so that we can just board those dogs and be done with it. Plus its just easier that way. We will stay separate and then maybe the last night all get together for dinner or something. Basically we were planning on going Fri-Mon.

 

Heres where it gets good....the said BM now wants to go out with us Sat and Sunday, but wants a "romantic night" with her husband (hes going with the guys) where they stay separate from us and do their own thing. We had plans for the girls those nights, and there are only 4 of us, so that kinda puts a damper on our group outings.

 

Basically do you all think that she is being rude? I mean, come on, this is a BACHELORETTE party. BTW they go out to Vegas together 1-2 times a year. I don't want to get mad over this and I don't want to be bridezilla, but this is not how my MOH had planned all of this out. rant.gif

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I do think it's a little rude from her part. I have girlfriends that can not be apart from their significant others too long and it drives me mad. Maybe on the last night when the whole group was going to hang out together she can have her "alone" time with her hubby.

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That seems very silly. Especially since they go there 1-2 times a year anyway. ITs not like this is the only time they have gotten away in 10 years. I dont blame you at all for being a bit annoyed. Is it really worth trying to convince her to be with the girls that night or is she just going to be a big rag about it? If she wants to be lame then so be it.

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I agree. Its not like I want to run off and spend time with my FI.

 

The other thing is that we are all supposed to be splitting the cost of the room and if she runs off one night its not really fair for the other girls. Shes just really weird like that!!

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Oh and I just wanted to add that I am getting a hard time from them because we were supposed to go out Thurs-Sunday, but we can't do that anymore so we changed it to Fri-Monday. Apparently that doesn't work as well for her. Shes just being a PITA!!!

 

She was like that for BM dress shopping too. She kept picking dresses that none of the other girls would ever wear!!

 

Sorry for the ranting! This is what happens when the first thing you hear in the morning is her trying to run the show!!

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That sounds crazy to me! who wants to be romantic in Vegas....Vegas is soooo not romantic. its the city of sin! I also think its quite selfish. And has she talked to her husband about this...I seriously doubt that if all his buddies are there having fun and partying that he would rather spend a romantic night with her. If she chooses to do that...let her, but she will see the next day how much she missed out on.

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I say it's your MOH's job to whip her into shape! You're there to have fun and not worry about it.. I would ask your MOH to sort out the details with your BM that's being difficult.

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I was in a wedding party for one of my best friends last year. We just went out for one night in Rochester (about an hour and a half from her home town). One of her BMs would not go in the car with us and insisted that her BF drive her. HE WAS AT THE BACHELORETTE PARTY THE ENTIRE TIME. At some point she left and I didn't even notice for about an hour. If your BM doesn't want to be there for one night, let her go. It's better than having her there pouting the whole time.

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Yeah I agree with all of that. Initially like I said, it was supposed to be in separate cities. I was just trying to keep the costs down for all of the girls, but everyone is excited to go. MOH has never been to Vegas so I wanted to give her a good time too! (I'm really not a selfish person!!)

 

BM wanted us all to go out there the weekend before which is her husbands b-day but we nixed that because I know then she would have made it about his b-day and not FI bachelor party.

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I don't really see the big deal, a 3 nite bach party is alot, I don't have 3 nites to devote my time to anything including my husband so I know I would want to spend one nite with my husband, and he would want that even more then I would. I would most likely choose the nite that we are all getting together and then beg off early for some alone time with my hubby. I would also still pay my share of the room for the girls. If my hubby and I got our own room for a nite it would be my problem to eat the cost of the other room. I don't think it is worth getting upset about, so many wedding's and wedding related things ruin friendships and I personally don't think at the end of the day it is worth it. If you go feeling upset and angry and your friend is upset, then no one is going to have any fun. I say just accept that we all don't feel the same way about things and have a really good time in the time you are together, jmho.

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