Bridal Shower Question
Posted 26 March 2008 - 09:36 AM
My mom feels that everyone knows I was planning on a destination wedding and never expected to be invited to it anyway, but that they would like to be included in the shower. So what should I do.....follow the "rules" or just listen to my mom and let her run the show??
BTW: We are not having an AHR (
Posted 26 March 2008 - 09:42 AM
19 June 2008
Posted 26 March 2008 - 09:47 AM
It is considered rude to invite people to the shower if you're not extending an invitation to the actual wedding (and it makes sense).
Posted 26 March 2008 - 11:46 AM
You are only supposed to invite wedding guests to a shower, but it sounds like your mom wants you to have some kind of big party! I would feel a little awkward if I were invited to a shower, but not a wedding. I would say if friends who aren't going volunteer a small, intimate shower is fine but a big one might be taken the wrong way.
Have you thought about making it a co-ed shower, with all of your wedding guests?
Posted 26 March 2008 - 11:55 AM
If the idea of your shower is for people to bring gifts, then it really depends on the people who will be invited, and why they are not invited to the actual wedding. If they just want an excuse to see the bride to be and lavish you with gifts, then thats cool to invite people not at the wedding. If they are the type of people who will care about that sort of thing, then you should probably plan on not inviting them to the shower if you don't want to ruffle feathers.
Posted 26 March 2008 - 12:34 PM
remember, its up to them to decline the invitation.
Posted 26 March 2008 - 12:37 PM
Posted 26 March 2008 - 12:50 PM
So, I vote for a small intimate shower, OR your mom host a pre-wedding party and not call it a shower, so people don't have the impression that they need to bring gifts.
I think I will end up having an intimate dinner/shower for the important women in my life who can't come to the wedding (and those who are) but not call it a shower.
The way I see it, people who want to get you a gift will get you one, shower or not.
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