Bad News (vent)

[plumsugar]

Lately, anything I hear is bad news related to our DW!

I just don’t get it!

• My SIL received a letter from the passport agency stating that she didn’t have enough identification. She just turned 18 so the rules are a little vague on what can be submitted if you don’t have any formal ID's. We took most of Sunday morning getting as much information together and overnight expressed the package yesterday, but there is no guarantee she will get a passport on time or even approved!

  She is one of my two bridesmaids…

• My cousin finally received a court date for her divorce/custody battle which her husband has been delaying for over 6 months. The date they gave her is the day she is supposed to leave for Cabo. She’s going to attempt to get a new date, but if they only have something 3 or 4 weeks later, she won’t make it to the wedding.

  The second of my two bridesmaids…

• The 2 most responsible couples that were reserved and ready to go may not even make it now. One recently got pregnant (high risk) and the other has just hit some financial problems…

• We are arranging transportation from the airport to the resort for our guests and I have ASKED NUMEROUS TIMES for their flight itinerary to Cabo. I still haven’t received it from some and one couple even replied “YOU TOLD US!†when I sent them a second email! Two weeks have passed since then and I have yet to receive it from that couple…How much harder can I try??

• My RSVP date was yesterday and I received ZERO in the mail! Granted I get a rooming list from the resort every month and know who is going officially, but how rude is it that I didn’t receive any when everything was self addressed & stamped?! I really don’t feel like calling guests to inquire, but what if someone is coming and staying elsewhere? Blah…

This is just so frustrating!!!

[boscobel]

Oh my, you certainly deserve to vent all that out! I have no advice for you, but only an ear to listen. All of that really stinks! The rsvp part is really annoying...

[Celina]

Regarding the non-RSVP'ers - at the very latest give them till April 5th and start calling them! People who don't RSVP are SO FREAKIN RUDE!

 

Your sisters seems like it should come through. Isn't there something they can do to push it through?

 

BM #2 - I'm sure they can reschedule somehow. She needs to tell them she'll be out of the country. I know she must be torn. Maybe an appointment will open up sooner?

[Kat81]

Keep on the Passport people. I know there is a number to call. I would call them daily for info. As for your Cousin I bet they can work it all out. I am sorry everyone is being buttheads as far as RSVPing. I swear I think that is a thing of the past. I threw a Baby Shower for one of my Best Friends. I sent out over 40 invites and only ONE person RSVPed. I was so mad. I didn't know how much food to buy or drinks or anything. There were all generations there too. Guess people are too caught up with themselves nowadays.

[plumsugar]

I am in no way blaming these people for anything going on in their lives right now. It just stinks to know things aren’t going as smooth as they should have been

 

My SIL's passport shouuullldddd pass with no problems, but every document she owned had some issue to it:

• Her mom laminated her Social Security Card before she ever signed it (lol)

• Passport Agency still has her birth certificate and she can’t get a DMV ID without it. That's her only 4 point item since she just turned 18 and has no bills/bank cards

• Her high school year book photograph didn’t have the name of her high school or date of graduation on any of the pages. The entire book only listed it once - ON THE COVER WTF!!

Yeah...things like that. She's going to get a copy of her birth certificate today and attempt to get a DMV ID with her social security card, college ID & transcript, then send that in to Philadelphia as a follow up. But its just a stressful thing waiting for a yes or no!

 

 

I truly feel for my cousin and her situation. She was so afraid to tell me when she called. I told her not to overly freak out about my reaction because my wedding comes second to her girls! She's going to try to postpone/push up the date and I absolutely won't mind if she can’t make it for something this important. But it still hurts like hell that a decision like this may have to be made to begin with. AND she's the only person on my side of the family who was going besides mom/dad/bro.

 

 

As far as everyone else and the RSVP's...

I wouldn’t wish this guest irresponsibility on anyone!

[ErinB]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I think all of us have had to deal with guest/passport issues etc. at some point. It is all part of the DW process! LOL! If it makes you feel any better, people don't RSVP to traditional weddings either!

 

Do you have group travel reserved or are the guests responsible for their own travel?

 

If everyone is responsible for their own, I would say take a deep breath and whoever shows up shows up. I know it sucks that those you hoped would be there aren't, but those who do attend will have a great time. You just need to focus on what you and FI want and your future together.

 

This is all advice I've received (on here and elsewhere)! It's extremely frustrating and there is the logical side of you that knows everything will work out that battles with the emotional side that probably wants to line eveyone you know up and smack them!

[chibi411]

wow...i hate to say it, but that whole RSVP thing, that is soooo me. i didn't realize how annoying it is until i read all these posts. so i apolgize for being one of "them", and in my defense.... i just got busy (no excuse).

 

sorry to hear your worries regarding your DW. i know its the little things that add up to be big things that make you bonkers. i hope your cousin can get another date, and i hope your SIL can get her passport. i'll be rooting for you!!

[plumsugar]

Update...

• After the long "arse-kissing" letter I sent to the passport agency, SIL got her passport two days later! I am soooooo relieved!!

• My cousin got her court date changed to the week after she returns from Cabo! Woohoo!!!

• One couple has definitely cancelled (the high risk pregnancy one). Totally understandable, but I'm still bummed out about it

• I decided to say "screw it" and am only going to arrange transportation for the one flight with the most guests. I'm not complicating my life anymore!

As far as the RSVP's...I think we have all been there at one time or another Chibi! I definitely know I was one of those people to wait until the last minute. It has officially bitten me in the booty lol. BUT, lesson learned and I will never again put anyone planning a big event through that!

 

In any case, things are back on track! Thank you for being supportive everybody!! I don’t know how I would have made it through the week without your words of wisdom!

[twinkletoes]

Glad to hear everything worked out for the most part!

[Yari]

Yay, so happy to hear that almost everything worked out!!!