Bridal shower questions...
Posted 25 March 2008 - 02:12 PM
Posted 25 March 2008 - 02:13 PM
I guess it's the other guests I am thinking of, because I have been one of those. And I have been to many showers where it was obvious that the couple had just registered for upgrades on everything. In those cases I really kind of resented going because it felt like a gift grab. By no means do I mind buying gifts for people who need them (which is maybe why I really enjoy baby showers more), but there are very few couples in my circle of friends who are actually in this position, myself included.
I think I will feel like I missed out if I don't have a shower, but I also don't think I really can. Realistically, we aren't inviting many people to the DW and we're not having an AHR. Most of my extended family is way too far away to attend.
I guess I'll say yes if someone offers, but I kind of think that won't happen. We'll see.
Thanks for all your perspective though. It's nice to know I'm not the only one with these conflicting feelings
Posted 25 March 2008 - 02:18 PM
| Originally Posted by Maura |
becky, take it from two people who have their house furnished/decorated mostly with things from college/FI's bachelor pad, REGISTER for gifts.
Posted 25 March 2008 - 02:22 PM
With people waiting until later to get married these days, few people throwing showers are actually needy. Also, most people that don't have anything yet, don't usually just register for the necessities to get them by. It's usually pretty nice stuff. You can get a complete dish set for $10 at Kmart (thats where I got mine) so no one really needs nice dishes. Showers are hardly thrown to help the poor couple get their start anymore.
I agree that baby showers are usually more satisfying. Typically those lists are for things people really do need. Atleast all the baby showers I get invited to are.
Posted 25 March 2008 - 02:29 PM
| Originally Posted by BeckyN |
That was also the realization we had. We will be moving around the next year for school (every 3 months) - so most of the stuff we have will just be going into storage. I made the decision that we will be getting a dumpster and throwing away most of the stuff from his current residence because I don't ever want it to move into our actual house together. FI hates throwing things away... so it will be interesting. If I can't get him to do it now and it gets moved into our new place, I will never get rid of i!
Posted 25 March 2008 - 08:53 PM
Posted 28 March 2008 - 10:33 AM
Posted 28 March 2008 - 04:01 PM
I strongly advice against inviting people that aren't invited to the wedding or the AHR - pretty tacky in my eyes. Although, as long as they are invited to the wedding or the AHR, invite them to the shower, whether they are coming to the wedding or not.
I had a few showers - aunts, friends, and my boss threw them.
We told all our DW guests that their gift was their presence - which it was the best gift of all - but other than showers, we wouldn't have gotten any gifts. We are very thankful.
I had the traditional wedding shower too - ladies sitting around taking about detergent and cooking - boo! How about a co-ed shower? they are great! We had two co-ed showers that were really, really fun. My friends threw one, which was a "Entertainment" theme party. They got a keg, we played some fun women vs. men games, and all the gifts revolved around us entertaining in our new house - so anything from Margarita glasses and chip and dip trays to wine and welcome mats! It was great!!! I've also been to "Build the Bar" and "Backyard BBQ" themed co-ed showers. I think the co-ed showers are WAY better! There's no reason the women should have to do this stuff alone
Posted 30 March 2008 - 11:01 PM
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