BM is making me crazy...LONG

[twinkletoes]

I am so glad you guys were able to work things out! Also happy to hear your other BMs were able to get your friend excited and back on track

[BillysBride]

Aww. Brittney PLEASE don't feel bad. This is no failure on your part. In fact, you should consider it a point of pride that you choose your friends carefully and don't call just any old body a girlfriend. I'm the same way, and to be honest, it used to bother me too! But the older I get, the more I'm learning that its quality and not quantity. I've had some people bail on me and sort of stab me in the back....people I would have thought would be down for me through anything. Turns out, they weren't. Made me feel bad to realize I only had one truly good friend a couple years ago. Now, that circle is expanding, but I'm in my 30's and its taken all that time to get to this point.

 

Again, don't feel bad and don't blame yourself for HER shortcomings. There's nothing wrong with being settled at 24, in fact ,I think thats the perfect age to slow the hell down and stop behaving like a full time party major. I feel sorry for the people I see going out every Friday night knowing they are the "oldest" people in the bar. hahahaha. Nothing wrong with going out, but its not a long term lifestyle and some people just don't get it til they are way older than they should be.

 

You enjoy your family as your bridal party. I wouldn't give this chick another thought beyond telling her "Nevermind, sorry to have bothered you."

[beachbride08]

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Originally Posted by BrittneyD I don't know if it is something that is going on with her. We have been friends since we were 12. Ever since high school, we stayed in touch and get together from time to time. We mostly chat on the phone. The truth is that we are in 2 very different places in our lives. She is still a party girl that thinks now one our age should be getting married. I am 24. I am much more settled. A big reason why I wanted her to be a BM is that she is the only girl that I have had a long term friendship with. My other BMs are all family. It's really making me feel like I have failed in the female friend department with all of this going on.

You should not feel that way at all! People change as they get older, and weddings always seem to open people's eyes about who true friends are.

[Yari]

Glad to hear things worked out.

[Copita]

BrittneyD,

 

Well it sounds like she showed up after all! I am glad to see thsi worked out for you!

One of my best friends and bridesmaids just told me last week that she cannot come at all to my wedding due to expenses (wedding is 3 months) but I just told her it was Okay and not to worry> I was hurt but what can I do, you know? I will def film it and am glad she told me WHEN she told me instead of a week before!

 

I am glad everything worked out for you!