| Originally Posted by jean-marcus |
you have no ideaaaaa the issues us guys have to sort through....
guys are just as messed up in the head but its so easy to read through them... i mean if you see a guy who's all suave and saying all the right things and buying you drink after drink in a bar OBVIOUSLY he just wants sex... not tough to figure that out. and if he drives a porche but still lives at home "because he is helping take care of his mother" then obviously he is a looser who wastes all his money on a flashy car...
but women are so sneaky and hide all their flaws and insane wacky issues its not fair... why cant women be easier to read.
Women aren't hard to read... you just forget about "man eyes"... you know, that thing you guys do where you don't see the ketchup bottle in the fridge if it's sitting behind the ranch dressing.
Frank's best friend and I have had this discussion before. He's in a similar boat---- amazing guy who would be one of those guys every girl admits would be the perfect kind of guy. But it doesn't work out for him.
What I've noticed in most people (men and women both)--- is that they try to put people into a specific role in their lives instead of letting them take the role they were meant to take. They'll see someone in public that they are attracted to and the first thought is to talk to them and see if it leads to getting a date, which could lead to dating and relationships. It's a lot of pressure on people, because it's always about seeing how they fit into this mold of what the person is looking for in a partner. I think when we set aside that "dating" mentality and approach people the same way we do our casual friends- that it really relaxes the situation enough for it to go as fas as it was meant to go.
enough psych-babble.... sorry.