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I would like to a dinner the night before our wedding or a brunch afterwards to spend more time with close friends and family. Also, with everyone spending so much to be with us in MX, it is the least we could do. However, Bill's parents are divorced and do NOT get along. He does not want to provide any other occasions where they will have to be together. Any suggestions? I feel bad not hosting something...

 

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Is there anyway that you can talk more with Bill about this? Maybe try and explain that the happiness of all your guests might outweigh 2 people that dont get along. How many people are attending the wedding? Isnt there a way that your FMIL and FFIL can stay on opposite sides of the area in order for you to have a welcome dinner?

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I would do brunch too if it might stress you out before your wedding. Dinner usually lasts longer, it seems, since drinks are flowing and there isn't much left to do the rest of the day.

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Is there anyway that you can talk more with Bill about this? Maybe try and explain that the happiness of all your guests might outweigh 2 people that dont get along. How many people are attending the wedding? Isnt there a way that your FMIL and FFIL can stay on opposite sides of the area in order for you to have a welcome dinner?
Ditto - I really hope that the two of them are mature enough to just keep the peace for your wedding. Maybe just be sure that they are seated at opposite ends. Or just let them figure it out - they either can skip the event altogether, or just 1 of them go. If that's the case, then you could have brunch (or dinner, whatever wasn't hosted) with the other. Though personally, I wouldn't go out of my way to cater to this behavior. But I have divorced parents as well, and while they're not best buddies, they just will stay out of eachothers way.

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Let me just say smile43.gif

I can relate and I am soooo sorry that you are dealing with this. My soon to be inlaws are divorced and while my FMIL rocks... the FFIL is a pain in the ass- he refuses to even stay on the same island as her- he is so fake and I beleive is worried his new wife may see a whole dif. side of him. He has invited his own group to Mexico that he is keeping in Cancun with them. His wife, her sister and her best friend and another couple they are friends with. We have opt'd to a sunset wedding- drinks and finger food on the beach after then later off to downtown for dinner and clubbing. I am sure FFIL's group will bale early- him and his wife just keep saying it is their vacation and they do not want to bump in the ex all week.

 

We have come to the conclusion that we will pass out a agenda for the trip with some ideas for those that want to join us and spend time-if they chose not to then so be it. We are planning a meet and greet on the Cancun side on Thursday so that those people that stay there do not have to ferry over and we can make it to the mainland to pick up a few things and help those flying in Thursday get settled and up to speed- It has been a pain but we just try to remember it is our day and if someone misses out then fine... We are having a AHR later so we are not planning anything real formal in Mexico- not sure if this has helped but feel free to PM if you need to vent- I know it can get heavy some times... The more we get into it with them the more I am so convinced that if we made the right choice with Mexico.... they would have me insane with a formal wedding.

 

Hang in there!

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I used to tell my parents they would have two choices when I got married, pay for two weddings or get along...and I have basically told my future in-laws that they either need to get along or they will not be there sharing the day with us. I know this seems harsh, but they have to let go of their issues for the sake of their child.

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I used to tell my parents they would have two choices when I got married, pay for two weddings or get along...and I have basically told my future in-laws that they either need to get along or they will not be there sharing the day with us. I know this seems harsh, but they have to let go of their issues for the sake of their child.
You are a brilliant woman - I love the pay for two weddings or get along line!

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Kash it seems to have worked, because they have actually called eachother and spoken like adults. Over Christmas, the three of us went to coffee (I cannot remember when my parents sat down and had a civil converstation without a lawyer present)

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Kash it seems to have worked, because they have actually called eachother and spoken like adults. Over Christmas, the three of us went to coffee (I cannot remember when my parents sat down and had a civil converstation without a lawyer present)
That's good....maybe this will helped them be civil in the future..you speaking up about may help!...good idea

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