We have everything...is there a polite way to ask for cash?

[Allaballa]

I had some trouble with a gift from the registry and the gift gifter. I returned the item and when the gift gifter came over she was shocked it wasn't there. I had to really backpeddal on that one. She was completely thrilled that she got me this kitchen appliance and it was quite akward for me when it wasn't there.

 

I'm not saying don't return the gifts just give some thought to what you register for.....for example, sheets, not easy for guests to notice they are not there.... kitchen appliances very easy and many cause issues.

[tlomlad]

we did not realy think that we would get many gifts as people were spending $$$$$ for the trip so we have not registered anywhere so come to think about it a only one person has asked us what we wanted so maybe we will get lucky and get cash cause we did not specify?

[Jenn]

I think the honeymoon registry is the best way to essentially ask for cash. We used it, and since we booked our honeymoon through The Big Day, we did not have a service fee (and got a great deal). We also had a BBB registry, but never posted it anywhere. My coworkers still found it and bought us $500 in knives -- which was awesome, btw!

 

We received a few gifts off the honeymoon registry, but mostly our guests gave us cash at the wedding. My only suggestion would be if you register for your honeymoon, make sure you ask for things you will actually do.

[Helen_S81]

I've had lots of people ask me where my daughter is registered, or what they would like for gifts. Is it ok for me to say that they are not registered because they have everything that they need for now? If the person has persisted after that I have mentioned that they can 'donate' to the future down payment on a house.

 

I feel uncomfortable doing that but don't know what else to say or do?

[Jenn]

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Originally Posted by Helen_S81 I've had lots of people ask me where my daughter is registered, or what they would like for gifts. Is it ok for me to say that they are not registered because they have everything that they need for now? If the person has persisted after that I have mentioned that they can 'donate' to the future down payment on a house. I feel uncomfortable doing that but don't know what else to say or do?

I think that if done correctly, its ok for parents/wedding party to suggest cash. Its definitely tacky if the couple asks for it, but coming from someone else, I don't think it has the same feel. And 'donations' for a downpayment is a nice way of putting it...

[Mandy]

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Originally Posted by Morgan Bed Bath & Beyond gave me those little enlosures. I should have gave them back because it seems so wasteful to trash them. Hmm, wonder if I can do a craft project with them. Stick something on the front over the words like it's a piece of cardstock...

Morgan, I was going to suggest a DIY intervention til I read this:

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Originally Posted by mauraw I recycled my BB&B enclosures!

Now I'm just sad for both of you! (But Maura, we want to see pics of what you created!)

[gkashmira]

I agree with all of the above. I think it is very tacky to ask for cash directly but hints from friends and family are OK. I also vote the BB&B way - though that is an interesting warning about the visible gifts.

[rodent]

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Originally Posted by Mandy Morgan, I was going to suggest a DIY intervention til I read this: Now I'm just sad for both of you! (But Maura, we want to see pics of what you created!)

Your mom would disown you if you staged a DIY intervention

[Mandy]

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Originally Posted by Morgan Your mom would disown you if you staged a DIY intervention

So true! We'll just keep this to ourselves...

[MelanieS]

I think you girls ought to take all the registry enclosures and make some of those cute origami doves out of them - they are supposed to bring good luck for your wedding, you know!