We have everything...is there a polite way to ask for cash?

[Can'tHardlyWait]

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Originally Posted by Morgan Don't dare use your mod powers to swap out the title under my user name to "Senora Tackmaster." Tack Daddy? Return of the Tack. Tacky McTackerson. Nope, Senora Tackmaster is the best.

You girls crack me up! I haven't been on the forum in so long... totally miss you guys!

[Saraha]

Well My sister just didnt register at all. Its hard to just tell people to give you money but she got a lot of money that way.

[rodent]

Here it is. I saved it because I thought it was so pretty. I'm learning how to make invites like this. Too bad they chose that wording.

 

[Maura]

oh yeah, and its prominent on there too. i see what you mean. tacky tacky!

[rodent]

I realized I do already have a tacky nickname. My mom calles herself "the queen of tacky" because she like a lot of decorations. Her bedroom looks like a jungle safari. I also like a lot of bright colors & decorations so I call myself "Tacky Junior."

[rodent]

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Originally Posted by mauraw This is exactly one of the correct ways to go about it. Ha, Galit, we did add things to our BBB registry that we have every intention of returning for cash, so we can buy some other stuff we want but is too expensive to register for, like furniture. Some of my married gfs gave me that tip! Sorry, there's no way around saying this: It's tacky to ask for cash. Anybody remember the thread I posted awhile back about the DW invite my FI and I got from a friend in Mexico? First of all, they included a gift registry enclosure, which is tacky anyway -- you should never solicit your own gifts, that's what showers are for, when someone else sends out the invites and can include that info. And also, that's what wedding websites are for, where you can post the info if they want to see it, but its much less agressive than sending it in an invitation. Anyway, the people included little enclosures with the invitation asking for cash gifts and then had the balls to but their bank account numbers "for easy transfer" ---my FI was so offended, he threw out the invite, we didn't attend and we certainly didn't send a gift. If you want things like sheets, pots & pans anyway, why dont you just register for them Then just add a bunch of other stuff from BBB and return it. It's better for you to have the hassle of returning stuff rather than offending your guests. People don't forget that stuff. The DW I mentioned above was in early Nov 07, and our circle of friends is still actively talking about it like it was yesterday anytime anything comes up about wedding etiquette. You can also, at many places, just register for gift cards.

I would drop that straight in the trash. No wait, I'd save it so I can show people "can you believe the nerve."

Bed Bath & Beyond gave me those little enlosures. I should have gave them back because it seems so wasteful to trash them. Hmm, wonder if I can do a craft project with them. Stick something on the front over the words like it's a piece of cardstock...

[nikkianddean]

Oh, I got so sad when I saw that wording. Morgan, you could never be the queen of tacky: I had a sorority sister last summer who:

 

1. Asked for monetary gifts

 

2. Told me I could not bring Dean because we were not married or engaged -we were only living together. (To make matters worse she had been living with her (now) husband for 4 years and they had 2 children)

 

3. Had a cash bar at her wedding

 

Rest assured you will never be Senora Tackmaster, cuz this girl has you beat hands down!!!

 

These are great suggestions on the registry ideas. Thanks ladies!!!!

[h&a]

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Originally Posted by mauraw Sorry, there's no way around saying this: It's tacky to ask for cash. Anybody remember the thread I posted awhile back about the DW invite my FI and I got from a friend in Mexico? First of all, they included a gift registry enclosure, which is tacky anyway -- you should never solicit your own gifts, that's what showers are for, when someone else sends out the invites and can include that info. And also, that's what wedding websites are for, where you can post the info if they want to see it, but its much less agressive than sending it in an invitation. Anyway, the people included little enclosures with the invitation asking for cash gifts and then had the balls to but their bank account numbers "for easy transfer" ---my FI was so offended, he threw out the invite, we didn't attend and we certainly didn't send a gift.

I think I can top that... I worked with a girl once and on her invitations she put 'in lieu of presents we ask that you purchase a ticket to our wedding' - the tickets were $80 per person or something and she was telling me how it was still a great deal for a nice meal included - TACKY!!!
I agree... there is no right way to ask for money IMO

[Maura]

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Originally Posted by Morgan Bed Bath & Beyond gave me those little enlosures. I should have gave them back because it seems so wasteful to trash them. Hmm, wonder if I can do a craft project with them. Stick something on the front over the words like it's a piece of cardstock...

I recycled my BB&B enclosures!

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Originally Posted by nikkianddean Oh, I got so sad when I saw that wording. Morgan, you could never be the queen of tacky: I had a sorority sister last summer who: 1. Asked for monetary gifts 2. Told me I could not bring Dean because we were not married or engaged -we were only living together. (To make matters worse she had been living with her (now) husband for 4 years and they had 2 children) 3. Had a cash bar at her wedding Rest assured you will never be Senora Tackmaster, cuz this girl has you beat hands down!!!

Oh hell no! how did she word the part asking for $? I hope you didnt attend that weddding. cash bar? i mean i understand some people cant afford to do open bar all night, but at least do wine/beer during dinner for christssake...i feel like that's the minimum that would be acceptable. and that is just plain rude she didnt let you bring dean -- you were obviously committed enough to be living together!

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Originally Posted by heidi&alex I think I can top that... I worked with a girl once and on her invitations she put 'in lieu of presents we ask that you purchase a ticket to our wedding' - the tickets were $80 per person or something and she was telling me how it was still a great deal for a nice meal included - TACKY!!! I agree... there is no right way to ask for money - just not good manners.

omg. hahahaha. that is one of the tackiest things ive EVER heard! i think that ranks right up their with mine.

[h&a]

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Originally Posted by mauraw omg. hahahaha. that is one of the tackiest things ive EVER heard! i think that ranks right up their with mine.

I know... too funny... you should have seen my shocked expression when she was telling me this! I've told that story so many times since b/c it was just completely outrageous to me! haha....